Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Rules

The Teens were sent overseas to live with a New family.
To live in a small town named as the "Best Place to Raise Children" in USA.
Their New parents are Devoted Christians.
Who also have four children of their own!!

And the first thing the New Parents did was,
To brief their New Children about the House Rules.
The Teens were NOT impressed as both thought the Rules were too Strict.

I asked my Elder Boy during the commerical break of the "World's Strictest Parents",

"Do you thing the Rules are Strict?"

My Elder Boy replied without thinking,
"No. How could they be Strict?
They are Reasonable.
No Drinking, No Smoking, No Rude Manners,
No going out at night on their own........"

And, there was another Rule.
Anyone Breaking the Rule would Face Consequences.
The Boy was made to clean the toilet after being Rude.
The Girl was made to being with the New Mum 24/7 after found Smoking.

The Programme has shown us that,

Even the Behaving Badly Teens could feel the Passion of their New Parents.
Could feel the New Parents are Genuine in helping them to become a Better Person.

Even the Mostly Clam me would shed tears when being touched.
When seeing the girl crying while reading her Mum's passionate letter,
With words like,
"I see myself in you........
seeing you're making the same mistakes I'd made when I was young........
many nights I walked into your room, seeing you sleep..........
and heartbreaking to see you destroying yourself......."

Even those having serious doubts about the Teens.
Could see the change in the Teens after that short 7 days.

This programme has once again remained us,
"A Better Environment can Bring Out Our Better Self."

These New Parents has also confirmed what I always be live in,
"Love has to come hand in hand with Discipline"

I asked my Elder Boy at the end of the programme,
"Why these Teens are Behaving Badly?"

My Elder Boy replied without any doubts,
"They don't come from a Happy Family"

(The boy was raised by Grandparents as his Mum was a drug addict & imprisoned)

My Elder Boy then asked me a question,
"Could I watch it again next week?"

"Yes, of course" I replied.
(In my heart- so that you know it's NEVER easy to be a Responsible Parent, ha!)


Fate
The Best Gift to Our Children is Our Time
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Friday, July 24, 2009

The World's Strictest Parents

Masterchef - the most watched TV programme in Australia finally came to an end.

A Great programme, giving us a lot of fun.
And a Great Opportunity, giving us to remind our boys of the Importance of the 6P,

Planning (Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail)
The Foundation - Without which nothing can be built upon.

Passion (One will Never do well if they do NOT like what they're doing)
The Joy - NOT Enjoy doing it, will NOT Make it.

Preparation (A Good Beginning more likely brings a Good Ending)
The Start - Headstart leads to Great End.

Presentation (Good Presentation makes a Good Impression)
The Climax - Make or Break Time.

Perfect Timing (Task has to be Completed on Time, Everytime)
The Control - Losing Control, Losing Chance.

Persistence (Insist on continue Improving Oneself)
The Difference - Working Wholeheartedly, Success come Eventually


Now, comes another Great programme.
On Channel 7, 1930-2030 hrs Every Wednesday,

"The World's Strictest Parents"

See if you can view it on the website, www.yahoo7.com.au

Each episode is to shows two Behaving Badly teenagers being put in a foreign country.
Living with "new" parents for a week.
And see if they change their Behaviours after the New experience.

We saw the first episode 2 days ago with our boys.
Utilising the opportunity to have a better understanding of how my boys see things.

We discussed with them during the commercial breaks and the next day breakfast.

This is a programme NOT to be missed.
Especially those having a teenage child/ren or a child soon to become one.

Fate
Better Understanding, Better Relationship, Better Life
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Question

My 6-year-old Younger Boy asked me an interesting question this morning.

"Dad, do you prefer a Slow Death or a Sudden Death?"

I : What about you, which one do you prefer?

B : I prefer a Sudden Death.

I : Why?

B : Because I do not have to see all these blood, intestine......coming out.

I : And?

B : And I could just fall ...like a tree trunk.

I : And?

B : And then fly up to the sky...

I : And then?

B : Just stay up in the sky.

I : Why did you ask me this question?

B : Because XXX (my Elder Son's name) told me he preferred Sudden Death."

I : Alright, I talk to you two about this again during breakfast, ok?

(I was brushing my teeth when being asked & the tooth paste started dripping as we talked)

While having breakfast, I brought up the subject again.

I : Why did you prefer a Sudden Death?

Elder Boy : Because there will be NO pain.

Younger Boy : I prefer living.

I : But everyone dies. Remember the saying & lyrics in the "Lion King"? Circle of Life?

Both Boys : Yes.

I : Life is a Circle. Just like sunrise, sunset, high tide, low tide..... and Life never ends actually. I could be a Dog Next Life.

Elder Boy : Yes, I might be a Dog Last Life.

Younger Boy : I may be a Pig Next Life.

Everyone started to laugh.

Fate
Life goes on and on ......
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I later learnt from my wife my boys learn the term "Sudden Death" from the TV programme, Masterchef, during which a contestant will be immediately eliminated if they fail to name an ingredient in a presented dish. One of us always watching TV with our children and it pays off.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Humour

While driving my Elder Boy home after his piano lesson yesterday, I asked him a question.
See if he really understood why I'd NOT share my lottery money with everyone UPFRONT.

Also, would like to remind him,
"Money" is NOT an Evil in itself.
It is the People using it that could be Evil themselves.

His answer surprised me.
Our Conversation went as follows :-

I : What'd be the First thing you do if you'd won the lotto?

B : I'd buy a house.

I : Why?
(I was expecting an answer like, "So that we could live in a more comfortable house" etc.)

B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know where I live.
It's Safer to change my address.

I : And then?

B : Buy a car.

I : Why?

B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know what I drive.
It's Safer to change my car too.

He was laughing when telling me all these.
I just could NOT stop laughing on hearing his answers either.

It's obvious my Elder Boy has really taken in what I've been reminding him,

"There are More Unhappy People than Happy People in this world.
More Selfish than Caring,
More Failing than Succeeding,
More Poor than Rich,
More.................. and
above all,
More Not so Good than Good."

I'm pleased to see my Elder Boy,
Not only having a Sense of Alertness,
But also a Sense of Humour.

Better Sense of Humour = Better Chance of a Happy Life = Better Chance of Success?

Fate
Humour Makes Things Better
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Saturday, July 11, 2009

Talk

My Elder Boy was recently given a letter "J" by his teacher.
He was required to give a short talk the following day.

My Elder Boy decided to make up a story about "Jaguar".
His story went as follows :-

"Once upon a time, there was a Jaguar and he ran very fast.
But one day while he was running, he found a Cheetah ran faster next to him.
So, the Jaguar went to visit a Wizard, asking the Wizard to change him to a Cheetah.
His wish was granted.
The following day, he ran past all the other Jaguars.
But 20 seconds later, every Jaguar ran past him!
The Jaguar realised Cheetah could only run faster than him for 20 seconds!

"This story has reminded us,
Everyone has something Good inside them.
We do not need to change ourselves."

I told my Elder Boy it was a Great story.
And when he returned home the next day, I asked him how he went.

I was surprised to hear he had changed the topic at the last minute.
Instead of giving a short talk about "Jaguar", he had changed to talk about a classmate.
Whose name began with a "J".

He had talked about how Kind this "J" sometimes could be, What this "J" is good at.
Even though this "J" had, on a few occasions, been harsh Verbally to my Elder Boy.

I asked my Elder Boy why he did it.

He replied,
"I think it's better to say some good things about "J", so that it would be better for our relationship."

I smiled.
Because I was Happy.
Because I knew my Elder Boy has grown.

Fate
EQ is More Important than IQ
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Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Good Intention, Bad Outcome

I'd asked my Elder Boy why I would share my lottery money with three of them ONLY.

He was NOT sure.

So, I told him a real life story.

In US, there was a man won a lottery.
He then shared the money with everyone around him.
His wife, his children, his siblings, his relatives, his friends etc. etc.

But, everyone around him was NOT happy.

Because they're comparing.
They're asking why others got more than them.
Asking the Winner,
"How could she get more than I when I'd known you Longer than her?"
"How could he get more than I when I'd helped you More than him?"

In the end, the Winner was also NOT happy.

So, rather than just handing out money to others when they do NOT need it, we better wait.
We wait until they desperate need the money for urgent matters.
We then come in and give them the financial help when it's most needed.
Then, they will be very happy.

I've also used the story to remind my Elder Boy of the need to,
"Think like Others - Putting Yourself in others' Shoes"

Understand Oneself, Understand Others - making everyone Happy Together.

Fate
Everyone Deserves a Good Outcome
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Friday, July 3, 2009

The Biggest Prize

Australia had recently offered the Biggest Prize for its Lotto,
A$90 Million.

I asked my Elder Boy how he would use the Prize Money if he was the Winner.

His eyes were then blinking - so he's doing his Maths!
He then divided the Money as follows:-

A$ 2Million for Charity.
A$ 5 Million EACH for Mum & Dad.
A$ 6 Million EACH for his Younger Brother and 3-year-old Cousin in HK.
And put the rest in a bank.

A very good plan.
But of course I'd to ask,

"Why would your Younger Brother and your Cousin get more than your Mum & Dad?"

A very logical answer.
"Because they're Younger, have more years to live, so they need more money."

He then asked me the same question.

I told him I would divide the money into 5 equal parts.
20% for Charity (10% has to be for the children ones)
20% for Each of us - the Four of us.

He, of course, had another question for me,
"Is there a A$1 Billion Prize?"

"Yes," I replied, "And I've already won it."

"Really?" my boy wondered.





"Yes, because I've you two - Happy & Healthy boys!"

Fate
Our Children Bring us the Biggest Prize
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com