Ending

Everything in Life has a Beginning.
On 29 May 2009 I started writing.
Thanks for your 5 1/2 years reading!

I wish our family conversations,
Have given you some stimulation,
Helping you to have a Clearer Vision.

Everything in Life has an Ending.
No matter how much one is enjoying.
It's time to start forward thinking.

I wish to take on New Challenges.
To Help more strangers,
To Help UK kids to have a Better Future.

Every Ending in Nature brings a New Beginning.
I just started a New Blog this morning,
Helping primary students to keep progressing.


http://www.elevenplusandmaths.blogspot.co.uk/



Fate
Everyone Deserves a Happy Ending

Dream

                                                            Night

                                                        Xmas time

                                                   Everything is fine

                                                Down the memory line

                                              Life always tough but kind

                                           Friends are always easy to find

                                              Never feel lonely at anytime

                                                Many coming from globe

                                                     Assisting me grow

                                                         Through time

                                                             Thanks

May all your Dreams Come True

Everyone's in your Family Tree too,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IX79VxZ5j4g

(My Open 'Thank You' to all my Old Friends, New Friends, 'Enemies' turn Friends, those soon to meet and become Friends)

Best wishes

Fate

Dream Will always come True...

because Family/Friends Will always take us Through

P...

While on our way to school,
Younger Boy started a chat.

YB : Do you know one can tell...
How healthy one is from their P...?

I : Yeah...sort of...

YB : Actually, there're 4 factors.

I : Really, 'Doctor'?

YB : Yes.
1st is the Texture.
If the Texture is....

I : I know. I know...
What's the 2nd?

YB : The Colour.
If the Colour...

I : OK. OK...
The 3rd?

YB : The Smell.
If the Smell...

I : Fine. Fine..
And the last factor?

YB : Well, the Difficulty.
If it's Difficult....

I : I get it.  I get it...
I'll start eating more healthy.
You P...ing, I meant, Putting me off my lunch now.

Fate
The Truth has to Come Out

Problem

At a supermarket the other day.
Saw a 65+  knowingly parking her car,
At a spot reserved for motorbikes only.

At a swimming pool the other day.
Saw a 40+  standing in the middle of a pool,
Threw a ball with his kids, obstructing others.

At a sport centre the other day.
Saw a 30+  maliciously making a false report,
Demonise a parent to cover his own Dishonesty.

Many complain about the world we're in today,
Complaining how people LACK  Self-Discipline,
Respect for others,  Consideration for others etc.

Yet they themselves behave just like the above 3,
Making themselves Unrespectable,
Making themselves a 'Role Model' for their kids?


Terence
Problematic Children come from Problematic Parents
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www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com

Chef

Before leaving home for railway station,
I double checked with Younger Boy.

I : I'll leave to pick up mum.
Could you remind me what you'd do.

YB : OK.
First, turn on the main switch.
Then press the rice cooker's 'On'.

I : When would you do that?

YB : 10 minutes after you leave home.

I : Great.
And then?

YB : Then, turn on the oven.
And set the timer.

I : For how long?

YB : 20 minutes.

I : Excellent.
When would you do that?

YB : 5 minutes after I turn on rice cooker.

I : One last question.
How do you remember all that?

YB : Do you remember I did it once?
And I'll set alarms when you leave.


(He peeked behind curtain, saw me reversing then started timing)


Terence
Little Chef, Big Helper, Great Planner
Twitter : @longyinfather
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11+

I keep reminding my boys,
Life is full of Tests.
And 11 + is just 1 out of many Tests.

Many parents are panic about 11+.
As a result, make their child panic.
To me,  11+ =  Picnic, no Panic.

11+ = Picnic because it's a Journey.
For parents + child to enjoy together,
Plan, Learn, Work + Progress together.

So, when I was approached by parents,
Wanting to pay me to 'coach' their child,
To help their child to pass the 11+.

I turned down their request,
Reminding them they could do it themselves,
They're the best person to help their child.

It's all  about helping their child to...
Develop the 3 C.
Confidence, Competence, Competitiveness.

I was very pleased to see,
The parents got the ideas.
And their children passed the 11+.


Terence
11+ = Chance to Identify Strength + Weakness
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Do

Younger Boy started a chat,
While we're playing table tennis.

YB : Do you know what...
We discussed at school today?

I : Something interesting?

YB : Yes, we talked about  IQ.

I : IQ?
So what do you know about it?

YB : I know IQ is to...
Make the most of your brain.

I : Oh, yes.

YB : And about what you should do.

I : True.

YB : Do you know what EQ is?

I : Emotional Quotient.

YB : That's right.
EQ is about what you should not do.
And...

I : And?

YB : And...When to Stop.


Terence
Do or Not Do, Depends on YOU
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Side

HK is in turmoil.
Effecting every HKer.
Some now Hate, Dislike, Unlike...

Unfriend etc. each other.
Because they're on different side :
One on the side of the HK Police,

The other on the side of HK Students.
I turned this once in a lifetime Crisis,
Into once in a lifetime Chances...

Chances to help myself and my boys,
To become Better by understanding...
Others and Ourselves more.

I asked my boys,
'Which side are you on :
Police or Students?'

They asked me back.
I reminded them,
'I'm always on the Right Side.'

'Not on the side of the Police,
'Not on the side of the Students.
'But whoever did the Right thing...

'At one particular time,
'I'll support them.
'I look at EACH incident on its Merit.'

I also reminded them,
'Never, Ever fall into, what I call,
ET, NOT the movie, but...

'Emotion Trap.
'Do NOT tie your Emotions to any particular...
'Individual or group;

'Make sure your Judgement is based on...
'Facts + Consequences of EACH incident.
'Because we're all only Humans,

'We all make Bad Decisions sometimes,
'Good Decisions some other times.
'Noone is 100% Right at All times.'

I gave them 2 examples.
Police was Wrong in firing CS Gas,
Against mostly peaceful protesting students.

Students were Wrong in occupying...
Too many roads for too long to obstruct...
Innocents from going to work, schools etc.


Terence
Everyone has the Imperfect Side
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Typical

While me driving him to school,
Younger Boy started a chat.

YB : Do you know what a...
Typical British Conversation is like?

I : Well, kind of...

YB : OK. Let me tell you.
It always starts with the Weather.

I : Oh, yes.

YB : Then,
'How's your weekend?'

I : That's true.

YB : Nothing personal.
Nothing specific.

I : You're right.

YB : And...

I : And?

YB : And it always ends with a High.

I : A High?

YB : Yes, something like,
'Have a good weekend!'


Terence
Typical Child. Typical Observant. Typical Tired Parent.
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Technology

Technology changes everyone's life.
Good Ways and Bad Ways.

Every adult spends too much time on phone?

Every teen spends too much time on texting?

Every child spends too much time on tv?

But I've been using technology to my advantage.

Emailing the following 3 videos to my boys.

For them to watch in their own time.

For them to interpret the messages

1st, Never Give Up....

Our Dreams.......Our Loved Ones.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZlXWp6vFdE

2nd, Everyone Fails but can everyone ......

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NsOBaV_93yQ

And the 3rd one?

Yes, still about running.

'Life is not just about Winning but....'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJzxZ3Eo2Ig

Terence

Technology Brings Family Together

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Look

Family went for a night shopping,
When we had a holiday in HK.

Younger Boy started a chat,
When us looking for bargains at a shop.

YB : Dad, look.
(Showing me a pair of shoes)

I : Yes, I Know.
Good shoe...but expansive.

YB : No. Look closer.

I : The design?

YB : No. Look at the brand.

I : It's Adidas?

YB : Yes.

I : So?

YB : So, look again.

I : Hm.....

YB : Look. (Pointing at the letters)
It's 'Adiaas!


Terence
Look Out or Lose Out
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NaiyU2Zptjg

Interview

Humbly,
I've found the interview.
The one that I'd in Hong Kong.

Hopefully,
You've found the formula.
The one that you'd use at home.

Happily,
All have found the future.
The one that would make a better family.

http://sp.stheadline.com/smartparents/?date=2014-09-04&page=20


Terence
A Good Interview Gives a Good Life Preview/Review
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Challenge

The Greatest Challenge for our kids?
Not passing their Exams,
Not perfecting their Look,

But...
Having the Brain...
And Brave enough to say 'NO'...

To Silly and very often...
Self-harm act that many blindly follow...
The 'Let's have some fun' Culture.

Including the latest one,
That has a charity touch,
Endorsed by Rich & Famous...

Like Bill Gates,
Like Mark Zuckerberg etc.
Yes, the Ice Bucket Challenge.

Sooner or later,
This Challenge is to cause someone...
Either seriously sick/injured or even death.

If I'm nominated for this Challenge,
I'll accept the Challenge and turn it into...
A New and More Meaningful Challenge :

Drink a glass of water.
Remind all water shouldn't be wasted to make ice.
Remind all water should be drunk more for health.

Then donate double amount to the charity.
Then making everyone a Winner.
Noone gets sick.

Noone gets injury.
Charity gets more money.
No More Silly Fun Culture.


Terence
Greatest Challenge : Say NO to Silly Challenge
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Magazine

I was humbled again.

Because I was approached....

Again.....by a few columnists.

1 was from a HK parenting magazine.

She'd found a way to find me....

While I was on holiday in HK with family.

She sent me an Email....

With a request for an interview....

With.....10 questions.

That's before I agreed to be interviewed!

Very Efficient.

Very Sensible questions.... + more questions.

So if you're in HK,

You may wish to buy the Sing Tao paper (星島),

Get a coupon, exchange for the magazine (親子王).

On (Thurs) 28 August.

If you are not in HK,

You may wish to visit the following site,

http://sp.stheadline.com/smartparents/

I wish you would find my interview useful.

For you to copy, modify etc. for your child;

Or use it as an example of what NOT to do!

Terence

Magazine reminds parents are Love Giving Machine

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Mistake

In Hong Kong.
ParkN, 1 of Big 2 supermarket chains.
Younger boy smiled at bakery section.

I : Why are you smiling?

YB : It's so funny.

I : Funny?

YB : Yes.
There're 5 spelling mistakes.

I : Really?

YB : Yes. Let me show you.
This one, Becon Roll.
It should be Bacon Roll.

I : Oh, yes.

YB : Thousand Island Sause Sausage?
It should be Sauce sausage.

I : Yes, of course.

YB : This one, French Rpll
It should be French Roll.

I : Yes, you're right.

YB : What about this one?

I : I know.
This one, Sweet Patato Bun.
It should be Sweet Potato Bun.

YB : Correct.
And this one?

I : Miffin?
It should be Muffin.



Terence
Makes No Mistake : One has to Learn from Mistakes
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Right

In Hong Kong.
Enjoying the food,
And the Challenges.

Not pre-planned action.
It just happened...
When I was Right there.

A child lacked Confidence,
When playing double in badminton.
I then played with him on 1-1.

Told him to focus on 2 simple moves.
He listened, looked, did and did again.
He got better and better and...smiled.

Another child was Panic.
Spelling test was on the following day.
Told her to focus on 1 word at a time.

'Look, Say, Spell, Write, Explain, Use....'
She cried...happy tears...then smiled.
No problem on the test day.


Terence
Take the Right Way, be Happier Every Day
Twitter : @longyinfather
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Say

While me driving him to school,
Younger Boy started a chat.

YB : I know what you're going to say.

I : Really?

YB : Yes. I know.

I : You think I'll say,
'Have you got your water bottle?'

YB : No.

I : You think I'll say,
'Have you got your P.E kit?'

YB : No.

I : You think I'll say,
'Make sure you pay full attention in class.'?

YB : No.

I : Oh...come on then, please tell me.

YB : You know it.

I : Oh...come on, give me a hint.

YB : You'll say,
'Water can't injure but slipping will.'

(Oh, yes, it's raining! My wipers on!)


Terence
Say No More, Children are Smart after all
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10

I've been surprised time and time again,
For the last 4 months while helping children,
Who were around 10 years old or younger.

The Age that I define as 'Foundation Age'.
They ALL exceeded parents' expectation,
As well as my expectation.

They Enjoyed learning new things.
They Mastered new things Quickly.
They wanted to learn More.

10 out of 10.
No Exception.
Should this be a surprise conclusion?

I've been thinking...
How I could help more children,
To benefit from Positive Stimulation?


Terence
Every Child Could be the PM, living in No. 10
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Support

While World Cup is on,
I asked Younger Boy a question.

I : Which team do you support?

YB : Italy.

I : Any particular reason?

YB : Same reason I support Chelsea.

I : Chelsea?
The team in Premier?

YB : Yes.

I : And the reason is?

YB : Both teams wear Blue shirts.

I : That's why you support them?
Because they're in Blue?

YB : Yep.

I : So, if I wear Blue from now on,
Would you support me more?

YB:  Well...No.
I used to like Blue...
But now, I prefer Orange.


Terence
Family Grows Together, Support Each Other
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Prove

I always remind our boys,

To ask themselves a question,

'Am I being Honest with myself?'

I've been asking myself this question.

Followed by the following question,

'Do I've anything to Prove?'

The answer is....

'Yes'.

And 'No'.

'No' - I don't have to Prove myself.

'Yes' - I'd like to Prove to others,

How they can easily become Better.

Better of Themselves.

If I failed in a entry test  of a good secondary,

When I was 12, When I was in HK.

When the maths test paper was in English,

When I couldn't understand the word, 'Add',

'Subtract', 'Divided by' etc.

And now I could write Blogs in English,

Tweet in English, YouTube in English,

Write an E-Book in English.

So could everyone...

To become Better.

If they try harder, learn harder.

Practise makes one Better,
 Whether you want to be a Footballer,
An Actor or a Scholar.

Terence

Nothing is Harder than Convince Ourselves Nothing is Hard
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