My Younger Boy had its 7th Birthday a few days ago.
He's very excited.
So excited that he'd blown the candles on his cake,
WITHOUT us singing him the birthday song First!
WITHOUT me putting the Videocam on First!
WITHOUT him making his Wish First!
We took him out to get his Birthday Present.
He'd a Big Smile when having it.
When putting it on......
A Brand New Spectacle!
With Bifocal Lens.
His Shortsightedness has jumped from -1.5 to -3.5 within a year!
Three different optometrists comforted us,
The feeling Guilty parents,
"Bookworms are like this!"
He's much Happy now because he can see things much better!
And his Birthday Wish?
B : A Very Happy Life.
I : It means.....
B : Eat Good Food.
I : And?
B : Play Good Toys.
I : And?
B : Do Work slightly above my level.
I : Wah...That's Good. Anything else?
B : That's pretty much what I need.
I : What about your Family?
Do you need that to have a Very Happy Life?
B : (Looking at me with a Cheeky Smile)
That's.......Pretty Obvious!
You'll get Bored with No Family!!
Fate
Family Keep Us Happy, Keep Us Going
www.fatesecrtes.blogspot.com
Friday, December 25, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
Life
It's been Unbelievably Hot.
In Queensland, New South Wales, Victoria...
Everywhere is at least 30+, many above 40+!!
But, it's Cool to hear my Elder Boy saying......
"This's Life!" while us having lunch at home.
I : What do you mean?
B : This's Life, Dad. Because....
(He gave me a Satisfying Smile)
I : Because......?
B : Because we've a House.
I : Yes.
B : Because we've Air-conditioning.
I : Yes.
B : And because we've Clean Clothes!
I : Yes, of course.
B : Life is Good because it's Nice & Cool in our Own Home
And we do NOT need to wear smelly sweating dirty clothes!
I : I'm glad you Appreciate Life with small things.
So, Good Life does NOT need TV or Computer Games, Right?
So, NO need to have your 20-minute Weekly Computer Game Quota?
I could see his eyes open wide, trying to protest!
Fate
Simple Life is a Great Life
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
In Queensland, New South Wales, Victoria...
Everywhere is at least 30+, many above 40+!!
But, it's Cool to hear my Elder Boy saying......
"This's Life!" while us having lunch at home.
I : What do you mean?
B : This's Life, Dad. Because....
(He gave me a Satisfying Smile)
I : Because......?
B : Because we've a House.
I : Yes.
B : Because we've Air-conditioning.
I : Yes.
B : And because we've Clean Clothes!
I : Yes, of course.
B : Life is Good because it's Nice & Cool in our Own Home
And we do NOT need to wear smelly sweating dirty clothes!
I : I'm glad you Appreciate Life with small things.
So, Good Life does NOT need TV or Computer Games, Right?
So, NO need to have your 20-minute Weekly Computer Game Quota?
I could see his eyes open wide, trying to protest!
Fate
Simple Life is a Great Life
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Education
I have asked my Global Friends the following question lately,
"What Education is all about?"
It is only Fair that I also asked............my boys.
The 10-year-old Elder Boy quickly replied,
"I've told you before."
I : Have you? O.K.
For the sake of an old man, please one more time.
EB : Alright. It's about Learning & Teaching.
(I though he got the Order wrong from a start but I was wrong!)
I : What do you mean by Learning? Where do you Learn? School?
EB : No, not just school. Learn from Anywhere.
I : Could you give me an example.
EB : Like learn from a tree.
(He pretended an apple falling from a tree hitting his head and said, Issac Newton)
I : What about Teaching? Who's teaching you?
F : No. It's me Teaching others.
After I've learnt something, I'm to teach others.
Like me teaching my younger brother how to play a new game.
I then asked my 6-year-old Younger Boy.
He replied without thinking,
"It is about Good Behaviour, Good Work & Good Friend"
"And everyone learns all the time!"
Fate
Learns from Anyone at Anytime
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
"What Education is all about?"
It is only Fair that I also asked............my boys.
The 10-year-old Elder Boy quickly replied,
"I've told you before."
I : Have you? O.K.
For the sake of an old man, please one more time.
EB : Alright. It's about Learning & Teaching.
(I though he got the Order wrong from a start but I was wrong!)
I : What do you mean by Learning? Where do you Learn? School?
EB : No, not just school. Learn from Anywhere.
I : Could you give me an example.
EB : Like learn from a tree.
(He pretended an apple falling from a tree hitting his head and said, Issac Newton)
I : What about Teaching? Who's teaching you?
F : No. It's me Teaching others.
After I've learnt something, I'm to teach others.
Like me teaching my younger brother how to play a new game.
I then asked my 6-year-old Younger Boy.
He replied without thinking,
"It is about Good Behaviour, Good Work & Good Friend"
"And everyone learns all the time!"
Fate
Learns from Anyone at Anytime
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Different Ways
I often remind my boys,
"There're always more than one way to do things.
Find the one that suits you most"
And they did.
Took Different Approach for the same situation.
My wife & I took them to an indoor playground last Wed.
The Chipmunk near North Lake.
My Elder Boy came to my Wife after playing for sometime.
EB : Mum, a girl called YYY , "Chinese Sausage"
(YYY is my Younger Boy's name)
M : How old is the girl?
EB : May be 8.
M : Do you know why she said that?
EB : I don't know.
M : What did you do then?
EB : I just stared at her.
M : And what did she do?
EB : She said, "I bet you want to hit me."
M : Did you?
EB : No, I just kept staring at her.
M : And then?
EB : She just left & played something else.
M : Good boy, you did the Right thing.
He then ran away to play.
My Younger Boy then came.
YB : Mum, a girl just called me "Chinese Sausage"
M : I know, you brother just told me. What did you do then?
YB : I said ot her, "I don't care about that, but you're English Muffin!"
M : And then?
YB : And then I just quickly ran away from her & continued playing.
This's Funny.
Because I used to test my boys how they'd deal with Bullying.
By calling them........ Yes! Chinese Sausage!
Funny because my Wife asked our Younger Boy,
"How do you know she's English?
YB : I don't know. I just said it.
M : What if she's an Oz?
YB :m.......... I know, I know, OZ Burger!
Told you that Children's World are Perfect.
Full of Laughter.
Full of ........Food!!
Had Reminded them again,
"Being Right does NOT mean one has the Right to be Rude"
Fate
Showing Respect, Earning Respect
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
"There're always more than one way to do things.
Find the one that suits you most"
And they did.
Took Different Approach for the same situation.
My wife & I took them to an indoor playground last Wed.
The Chipmunk near North Lake.
My Elder Boy came to my Wife after playing for sometime.
EB : Mum, a girl called YYY , "Chinese Sausage"
(YYY is my Younger Boy's name)
M : How old is the girl?
EB : May be 8.
M : Do you know why she said that?
EB : I don't know.
M : What did you do then?
EB : I just stared at her.
M : And what did she do?
EB : She said, "I bet you want to hit me."
M : Did you?
EB : No, I just kept staring at her.
M : And then?
EB : She just left & played something else.
M : Good boy, you did the Right thing.
He then ran away to play.
My Younger Boy then came.
YB : Mum, a girl just called me "Chinese Sausage"
M : I know, you brother just told me. What did you do then?
YB : I said ot her, "I don't care about that, but you're English Muffin!"
M : And then?
YB : And then I just quickly ran away from her & continued playing.
This's Funny.
Because I used to test my boys how they'd deal with Bullying.
By calling them........ Yes! Chinese Sausage!
Funny because my Wife asked our Younger Boy,
"How do you know she's English?
YB : I don't know. I just said it.
M : What if she's an Oz?
YB :m.......... I know, I know, OZ Burger!
Told you that Children's World are Perfect.
Full of Laughter.
Full of ........Food!!
Had Reminded them again,
"Being Right does NOT mean one has the Right to be Rude"
Fate
Showing Respect, Earning Respect
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Role
Seeing Mum walking Nervously near our swimming pool,
My Younger Boy then asked her why.
M : Gosh, there's a Wasp Nest near our pool fence.
B : So?
M : So, you or all of us may be stung when swimming.
B : They won't sting us if we don't harm them.
M : Well, they may think we attack them even if we're not.
B : So, what can we do?
M : I've to remove the Nest.
B : Mmmmmm.
M : Can you keep an eye for me?
Give me a shout when the Mother Wasp's flying back from outside.
Not before long, My Wife was screaming.
When she suddenly saw the Mother flying towards her.
My Wife felt down but quickly got up & ran into the house.
As fast as the Wonder Woman!
M : Gosh, she's mad!
B : What do you expect, Mum?
The Mother Wasp had to do what she's supposed to do!
Like you - if someone breaks into your house, you'll call the police!
In the end, the Nest was removed.
Though I was Sweating & Breathing quite heavily when removing!
Man - has to do what he's supposed to do!
Wasp, like Frog & Lizard, is now under my Responsibility!
Fate
Everyone Has a Role in the Family
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
My Younger Boy then asked her why.
M : Gosh, there's a Wasp Nest near our pool fence.
B : So?
M : So, you or all of us may be stung when swimming.
B : They won't sting us if we don't harm them.
M : Well, they may think we attack them even if we're not.
B : So, what can we do?
M : I've to remove the Nest.
B : Mmmmmm.
M : Can you keep an eye for me?
Give me a shout when the Mother Wasp's flying back from outside.
Not before long, My Wife was screaming.
When she suddenly saw the Mother flying towards her.
My Wife felt down but quickly got up & ran into the house.
As fast as the Wonder Woman!
M : Gosh, she's mad!
B : What do you expect, Mum?
The Mother Wasp had to do what she's supposed to do!
Like you - if someone breaks into your house, you'll call the police!
In the end, the Nest was removed.
Though I was Sweating & Breathing quite heavily when removing!
Man - has to do what he's supposed to do!
Wasp, like Frog & Lizard, is now under my Responsibility!
Fate
Everyone Has a Role in the Family
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Happy
Agent advised us prospective buyers would come for a house inspection.
Below was the conversation between My Wife & Our Younger Boy.
W : Just been told a couple from UK are coming to view our home.
B : When?
W : Tomorrow around Noon.
B : Do you know them, Mum?
W : No. Why did you ask?
B :Because they're from UK & you lived in UK before.
W : Yes, I did. But it doesn't mean I know Everyone in UK.
B : It's so Unfair - I have never been in UK.
W : You'll. We're to take you to the Legoland.
B : When?
W : Soon.
B : I want to go NOW.
He then left the bedroom and searched the drawers.
W : What're you looking for?
B : The DVD you recorded A (My Elder Boy's Name) playing at Legoland.
He was very Happy in watching the DVD.
Thought it was NOT Legoland one - which could NOT be found at the time.
But the one when he was a Baby!!
He laughed Happily when seeing himself laughing in the DVD.
Fate
It's So Simple to be Happy
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Below was the conversation between My Wife & Our Younger Boy.
W : Just been told a couple from UK are coming to view our home.
B : When?
W : Tomorrow around Noon.
B : Do you know them, Mum?
W : No. Why did you ask?
B :Because they're from UK & you lived in UK before.
W : Yes, I did. But it doesn't mean I know Everyone in UK.
B : It's so Unfair - I have never been in UK.
W : You'll. We're to take you to the Legoland.
B : When?
W : Soon.
B : I want to go NOW.
He then left the bedroom and searched the drawers.
W : What're you looking for?
B : The DVD you recorded A (My Elder Boy's Name) playing at Legoland.
He was very Happy in watching the DVD.
Thought it was NOT Legoland one - which could NOT be found at the time.
But the one when he was a Baby!!
He laughed Happily when seeing himself laughing in the DVD.
Fate
It's So Simple to be Happy
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Learning from Halloween
The day after the Halloween.
As usual - lazy in bed.
Lazy Sunday.
When I finally got into the bathroom,
My Elder Boy suddenly came in.
With his Halloween bucket.
Saying, "Trick or Treat!"
With a big smile.
I was speechless.
Because my mouth was full of toothpaste.
He carried on,
"Have you found anything wrong, Dad?"
I could only shake my head.
The toothpaste was dripping.
"First, today is not Halloween day.
Second, it should not be in the morning.
Third, it should not be in a bathroom!
O.K.?"
I had to nod my head to agree.
And waved him to leave bathroom.
I really did not wish to clean the floor!
I told him later.
Self Learning/Discovery was very important.
And was glad to see him having Logical Thinking.
His eyes kept blinking.
A Happy Boy.
Keeping his parents Happy.
Fate
Learning from Everything
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
As usual - lazy in bed.
Lazy Sunday.
When I finally got into the bathroom,
My Elder Boy suddenly came in.
With his Halloween bucket.
Saying, "Trick or Treat!"
With a big smile.
I was speechless.
Because my mouth was full of toothpaste.
He carried on,
"Have you found anything wrong, Dad?"
I could only shake my head.
The toothpaste was dripping.
"First, today is not Halloween day.
Second, it should not be in the morning.
Third, it should not be in a bathroom!
O.K.?"
I had to nod my head to agree.
And waved him to leave bathroom.
I really did not wish to clean the floor!
I told him later.
Self Learning/Discovery was very important.
And was glad to see him having Logical Thinking.
His eyes kept blinking.
A Happy Boy.
Keeping his parents Happy.
Fate
Learning from Everything
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Halloween
Halloween.
A 90-minute walk with our boys was a Test for our Will!!
Very Tiring.
But also Very Interesting.
From the people Opening their doors.
"Only Treat. Only Treat. No Trick! No Trick!"
"You're NOT scary enough!!"
From the people Waiting near their Doors.
Two homeowners decided to let their children....
To scare us!
With their Scary Face Masks!
Quietly coming from our back!!
From my 6-year-old Younger Boy.
When one homeowner stated,
"Ops...I'd completely forgotten it's Halloween today!"
My Younger Boy replied,
"It's O.K. It's Acceptable."
When a homeowner stated,
"Sorry, I'd forgotten to buy sweets."
My Younger Boy replied,
"I suggest you to put a note at your fridge to remind you to buy sweets next year."
He was only trying to be Helpful!
Happy Halloween.
Fate
Making Good Memories with our Children
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
A 90-minute walk with our boys was a Test for our Will!!
Very Tiring.
But also Very Interesting.
From the people Opening their doors.
"Only Treat. Only Treat. No Trick! No Trick!"
"You're NOT scary enough!!"
From the people Waiting near their Doors.
Two homeowners decided to let their children....
To scare us!
With their Scary Face Masks!
Quietly coming from our back!!
From my 6-year-old Younger Boy.
When one homeowner stated,
"Ops...I'd completely forgotten it's Halloween today!"
My Younger Boy replied,
"It's O.K. It's Acceptable."
When a homeowner stated,
"Sorry, I'd forgotten to buy sweets."
My Younger Boy replied,
"I suggest you to put a note at your fridge to remind you to buy sweets next year."
He was only trying to be Helpful!
Happy Halloween.
Fate
Making Good Memories with our Children
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
11+
I got some UK 11+ Sample Papers for my Elder Boy.
To see if the questions could stimulate him.
While driving him to his piano lesson, my Elder Boy surprised me.
B : I found something interesting about the 11+.
I : Which is?.
B : You know there are 80 questions.
I : Yes.
B : This like "Life" - people live till the age of 80.
I : Yes.
B : And if you get all 80 right, you'll have a Good Life.
I : What about if you get Q26 wrong?
B : That means you've a problem at the age of 26.
I : What about if you get Q11, Q29 & Q46 wrong?
B : That means you'll have problems at the age of age 11, 29 & 46!
His smile made him looked like a Feng Shui Master!
Fate
Best Learning comes from Self Discovery
To see if the questions could stimulate him.
While driving him to his piano lesson, my Elder Boy surprised me.
B : I found something interesting about the 11+.
I : Which is?.
B : You know there are 80 questions.
I : Yes.
B : This like "Life" - people live till the age of 80.
I : Yes.
B : And if you get all 80 right, you'll have a Good Life.
I : What about if you get Q26 wrong?
B : That means you've a problem at the age of 26.
I : What about if you get Q11, Q29 & Q46 wrong?
B : That means you'll have problems at the age of age 11, 29 & 46!
His smile made him looked like a Feng Shui Master!
Fate
Best Learning comes from Self Discovery
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
PSP
About 3 months ago, I'd started organised something special for my boys.
I discussed with my Elder Boy.
I : I'm going to give you a PSP?
B : Really? ....Cooool!
I : NOT the Sony PSP.
But a Positive Study Partnership
Yes, I found two girls, one Year 5, one Year 6 to join my boys.
Every Sat/Sun for 4 weeks they met & I taught them certain skills.
One of which is Presentation Skill.
One day, I asked them to take turn to stand out,
To tell the audience (i.e. 3 parents & 3 other children),
One thing that made them Happy last week;
One thing made them Unhappy last week; and
One thing they'd learnt from their Mum last week.
It's my Elder Boy's turn.
He spoke with a smile in his face,
"One thing that made me Happy last week was Home Schooling.
One thing that made me Unhappy last week was My Dad shouted,
'You should have known this one!!' when I got one question wrong.
My ears are still hurt!
And one thing I'd learnt from my Mum was,
'If you cannot say something nice......just don't say it!"
Very Humorous!
Fate
Children Sometimes Are Smarter
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I discussed with my Elder Boy.
I : I'm going to give you a PSP?
B : Really? ....Cooool!
I : NOT the Sony PSP.
But a Positive Study Partnership
Yes, I found two girls, one Year 5, one Year 6 to join my boys.
Every Sat/Sun for 4 weeks they met & I taught them certain skills.
One of which is Presentation Skill.
One day, I asked them to take turn to stand out,
To tell the audience (i.e. 3 parents & 3 other children),
One thing that made them Happy last week;
One thing made them Unhappy last week; and
One thing they'd learnt from their Mum last week.
It's my Elder Boy's turn.
He spoke with a smile in his face,
"One thing that made me Happy last week was Home Schooling.
One thing that made me Unhappy last week was My Dad shouted,
'You should have known this one!!' when I got one question wrong.
My ears are still hurt!
And one thing I'd learnt from my Mum was,
'If you cannot say something nice......just don't say it!"
Very Humorous!
Fate
Children Sometimes Are Smarter
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Swimming > Learning
My boys took a 5-day Intensive Swimming Course 2 weeks ago.
I had a chat with my 6-year-old Younger Boy on the last day.
I : So, what've you learnt from your Swimming Lesson?
B : Never Give Up!
I : Wah! That's good! Did the Teacher tell you? Or she just showed you?
B : No. Noone told me...I just know it myself.
I : How?
B : I just know it. When I was climbing the Inflatable....
I : Oh...so you'd learnt this AFTER the Lesson.
B : Yes. During the Playtime After the Swimming Lesson.
I : When you're climbing the Inflatables?
B : Yes. When I climbed the Slippery and Tall Inflatables.
Although I kept falling into the water, I made it in the 4th time!
Because I kept trying.
I : Never Give Up?
B : Yes, Never Give Up! Never Give Up!
(Repeating with a Shaking & Smiling Head...and a Fist in the air!)
Fate
Self Discovery is the Best Learning
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I had a chat with my 6-year-old Younger Boy on the last day.
I : So, what've you learnt from your Swimming Lesson?
B : Never Give Up!
I : Wah! That's good! Did the Teacher tell you? Or she just showed you?
B : No. Noone told me...I just know it myself.
I : How?
B : I just know it. When I was climbing the Inflatable....
I : Oh...so you'd learnt this AFTER the Lesson.
B : Yes. During the Playtime After the Swimming Lesson.
I : When you're climbing the Inflatables?
B : Yes. When I climbed the Slippery and Tall Inflatables.
Although I kept falling into the water, I made it in the 4th time!
Because I kept trying.
I : Never Give Up?
B : Yes, Never Give Up! Never Give Up!
(Repeating with a Shaking & Smiling Head...and a Fist in the air!)
Fate
Self Discovery is the Best Learning
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Time Machine
I'd a relaxing talk with my 10-yea-old Elder Boy about 2 months ago.
I : If there's a Time Machine, where/when would you like to go?
B : Mm..... Going back to the Age of Dinosaurs.
I : Yes, of course, you love Dinosaurs.
Would you like to guess my wish?
B : Going back when you're a child?
I : No, I'd like to go Forward.
B : Mm....
I : I'd like to go Forward............when you're 30.
Your 30th Birthday will be my "Judgement Day".
To see how you're doing at the time.
To see if I've done a Good Job as a Father.
You would make me Proud if you say on the day,
"Thank You, Dad, Now I Know Why!"
B : I'd like to go Backward.
I : What age?
B : When I was.............. 0!!
I : Mm......
B : So, I don't have any homework, just play all day!
Fate
A Responsible & Happy Child makes his Dad Proud
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I : If there's a Time Machine, where/when would you like to go?
B : Mm..... Going back to the Age of Dinosaurs.
I : Yes, of course, you love Dinosaurs.
Would you like to guess my wish?
B : Going back when you're a child?
I : No, I'd like to go Forward.
B : Mm....
I : I'd like to go Forward............when you're 30.
Your 30th Birthday will be my "Judgement Day".
To see how you're doing at the time.
To see if I've done a Good Job as a Father.
You would make me Proud if you say on the day,
"Thank You, Dad, Now I Know Why!"
B : I'd like to go Backward.
I : What age?
B : When I was.............. 0!!
I : Mm......
B : So, I don't have any homework, just play all day!
Fate
A Responsible & Happy Child makes his Dad Proud
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Winner
I took my boys for a Chess Tournament about a week ago.
My 6-year-old Younger Boy was particular excited.
This's his second time taking part in a tournament.
He was pretty relaxed when playing his 1st match.
Against a girl about 2 years older than him.
But then he broke the rule.
He showed the child sitting next to him how to move against his opponents.
I : You should be concentrated on your own game.
(Hinting that he should not interrupt another game)
B : I was only Helping others.
I : He learns More by thinking all by himself.
My Younger Boy won his 1st game.
Moved on to play another game.
Against another boy younger than him.
And.....he lost!
All because he broke the rule again!
I : Was he that good?
B : No. He kept making the wrong moves.
I : But he'djust beated you.
B : Yes, because I'd let him off.
I : How?
B : When I got his Queen, he was sad. So, I'd let him make another move instead.
I : O.K.
B : When I got his Rook, he was sad. So I'd let him make another move instead.
I : I'm proud of you, my boy. To me, you're a Winner.
B : Even though I'd lost?
I : Yes. Because you care about others.
B : Really? I'm a Winner? Yeah!!
I : But remember, simply letting others off does NOT really help them.
They've to learn from their Own Mistakes.
Fate
Learning from Oneself
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
My 6-year-old Younger Boy was particular excited.
This's his second time taking part in a tournament.
He was pretty relaxed when playing his 1st match.
Against a girl about 2 years older than him.
But then he broke the rule.
He showed the child sitting next to him how to move against his opponents.
I : You should be concentrated on your own game.
(Hinting that he should not interrupt another game)
B : I was only Helping others.
I : He learns More by thinking all by himself.
My Younger Boy won his 1st game.
Moved on to play another game.
Against another boy younger than him.
And.....he lost!
All because he broke the rule again!
I : Was he that good?
B : No. He kept making the wrong moves.
I : But he'djust beated you.
B : Yes, because I'd let him off.
I : How?
B : When I got his Queen, he was sad. So, I'd let him make another move instead.
I : O.K.
B : When I got his Rook, he was sad. So I'd let him make another move instead.
I : I'm proud of you, my boy. To me, you're a Winner.
B : Even though I'd lost?
I : Yes. Because you care about others.
B : Really? I'm a Winner? Yeah!!
I : But remember, simply letting others off does NOT really help them.
They've to learn from their Own Mistakes.
Fate
Learning from Oneself
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Hierarchy
Some months ago, my Younger Boy told me,
"Dad, I'm XXX's (My Elder Boy's name) Slave."
Few weeks ago, he briefed me,
"Dad, I'm XXX's worker."
Recently he updated me,
"Dad, I'm XXX's Assistant."
Very Lately, he advised me,
"Dad, I'm XXX"s Personal Assistant."
It's obvious that even a 6-year-old understand the Hierarchy.
Thanks to the Lion KING?
But at least, he's Advancing in his rank!
I : Why do you do whatever XXX tells you?
B : A Younger Brother has to what he has to do.
I : Which is?
B : Whatever his Elder Brother asks for.
I : You do NOT have to if you do not want to.
B : I want to................ because he'll give me something back.
I : Which is?
B : To invent a new game to play with me!
Oh, Yes, Carrots and.....................Carrots!
Fate
Everyone needs Someone
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
"Dad, I'm XXX's (My Elder Boy's name) Slave."
Few weeks ago, he briefed me,
"Dad, I'm XXX's worker."
Recently he updated me,
"Dad, I'm XXX's Assistant."
Very Lately, he advised me,
"Dad, I'm XXX"s Personal Assistant."
It's obvious that even a 6-year-old understand the Hierarchy.
Thanks to the Lion KING?
But at least, he's Advancing in his rank!
I : Why do you do whatever XXX tells you?
B : A Younger Brother has to what he has to do.
I : Which is?
B : Whatever his Elder Brother asks for.
I : You do NOT have to if you do not want to.
B : I want to................ because he'll give me something back.
I : Which is?
B : To invent a new game to play with me!
Oh, Yes, Carrots and.....................Carrots!
Fate
Everyone needs Someone
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Open Home
We've recently put our house for a Private Sale.
http://www.diysell.com.au/realestate/detail.asp?PropID=P20248
And we're to do our 1st Open Home this Sat.
So, I shared with my wife about some Innovative Ideas.
I : I think we should make our Open Home Unique.
W : Meaning?
I : Like try something New.
W : Like?
I : Putting up our Bouncing Castle in our garage, creating a Party Mood?
W : I prefer keeping the Castle for Indoor Use.
I : Having a BBQ, creating a Family Mood?
W : I've to do extra shopping and cleaning then.
I : Our boys playing soft piano background music, creating a Relaxing Mood?
W : That's a Good Idea. The Boys need to help too.
I then talked to my elder boy.
He liked the idea too.
So, I asked him to write down the songs he'd be playing.
He came back with a Surprise.
He did write down the songs on a piece of paper.
But the "Heading" on the paper was,
"Terms & Conditions in Playing Piano",
Stating clear there'll be NO Shouting, NO Change in songs etc..
Speechless!
Fate
Everyone Has a Role in a Family
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
http://www.diysell.com.au/realestate/detail.asp?PropID=P20248
And we're to do our 1st Open Home this Sat.
So, I shared with my wife about some Innovative Ideas.
I : I think we should make our Open Home Unique.
W : Meaning?
I : Like try something New.
W : Like?
I : Putting up our Bouncing Castle in our garage, creating a Party Mood?
W : I prefer keeping the Castle for Indoor Use.
I : Having a BBQ, creating a Family Mood?
W : I've to do extra shopping and cleaning then.
I : Our boys playing soft piano background music, creating a Relaxing Mood?
W : That's a Good Idea. The Boys need to help too.
I then talked to my elder boy.
He liked the idea too.
So, I asked him to write down the songs he'd be playing.
He came back with a Surprise.
He did write down the songs on a piece of paper.
But the "Heading" on the paper was,
"Terms & Conditions in Playing Piano",
Stating clear there'll be NO Shouting, NO Change in songs etc..
Speechless!
Fate
Everyone Has a Role in a Family
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, September 18, 2009
Lonely
I had a chat with my 6-year-old boy about "Lonely" a few days ago.
I : Have you ever felt Lonely, my boy?
B : No.
I : Why Not?
B : Why should I? I can always play by myself, play piano, play lego & read books.
I : What about playing with others? Do you not want to play with friends?
B : XXX (my Elder Boy's Name) is my friend. You're my Friend. Mum is too.
I : Do you not want to play with children of your age?
B : No. I can play with anyone.
I : Who's your best friend, then?
B : XXX!!
I : What about me?
B : You got 99.1 out of a hundred.
I : Well, that's Good! Very Good! Mm..... Just Curious. What's Mum's score?
B : Well, it's 9........9........99 point.......5, 99.5!
Never mind, Strict Dad is always not as popular as Kind Mum!
Fate
Life is Perfect when your Children Praise you
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I : Have you ever felt Lonely, my boy?
B : No.
I : Why Not?
B : Why should I? I can always play by myself, play piano, play lego & read books.
I : What about playing with others? Do you not want to play with friends?
B : XXX (my Elder Boy's Name) is my friend. You're my Friend. Mum is too.
I : Do you not want to play with children of your age?
B : No. I can play with anyone.
I : Who's your best friend, then?
B : XXX!!
I : What about me?
B : You got 99.1 out of a hundred.
I : Well, that's Good! Very Good! Mm..... Just Curious. What's Mum's score?
B : Well, it's 9........9........99 point.......5, 99.5!
Never mind, Strict Dad is always not as popular as Kind Mum!
Fate
Life is Perfect when your Children Praise you
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Second
Second Best.
The name of a small shop selling second hand goods in UK.
In a small village, Brightling Sea.
In a small village, Brightling Sea.
It came to my head when my wife mentioned the word, "Second."
I was Day Dreaming at the time.
W : We should thank our children.
I : Oh, yeah......
(What's the catch?Mm...... Setting me up to thank you?)
W : Because they've given us a Second Childhood.
I : Oh..yeah.....
(Wait a Second.. what's the catch?)
W : It's because of them, I play Lego again, play chess again, watch Tom & Jerry again...
I : Oh, yes. Of course (woke up at last)
Yes, you're absolutely right. I'm feeling like a young boy too. Pretending to be a tiger....
W : Many parents trying to bring their children into an Adult World.
And Our boys bring us to their world, a Child's World, a much Happier World.
I : That's Right. A World full of Fun & Laughter.
(Even at aged 6, my younger boy very often still tends to skip and not walk!)
I : Mm..... May be......
May be, we should also have a Second......
W : Second?
I : Second Honeymoon!
Fate
Children Cheer Us Up
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Yes, you're absolutely right. I'm feeling like a young boy too. Pretending to be a tiger....
W : Many parents trying to bring their children into an Adult World.
And Our boys bring us to their world, a Child's World, a much Happier World.
I : That's Right. A World full of Fun & Laughter.
(Even at aged 6, my younger boy very often still tends to skip and not walk!)
I : Mm..... May be......
May be, we should also have a Second......
W : Second?
I : Second Honeymoon!
Fate
Children Cheer Us Up
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Take For Granted
I often remind my boys, amongst other things,
NEVER Take Things for Granted
E.g. Never assume that bad things Only happen to others.
E.g. Never assume that everyone is a Kind person.
My rented car was Unlawfully Ticked.
When parking the car outside a supermarket,
I checked the parking meter, confirming there was still 90 minutes.
So, I did not put any more coins in.
When coming out from the store,
I was shocked to see a parking ticket - when there was still 67 minutes left!
Shocked I was ticketed for parking a car at a meter,
".....showing the word 'Expired'" (According to the ticket)
Speechless.
I asked my 10-year-old Elder Boy.
I : Why I was ticked?
B : May be the officer is new. He issues more ticket, so that he gets more money!
I : No. He will NOT get more pay for issuing more tickets.
B : May be he only saw you parking at the meter but not knowing there was still money in the meter.
I : Still, he's to check the meter First.
B : That's True.
I : This's Serious. If he did not check the meter First before issuing, he's Neglect of his Duty.
B : ........
I : But if he'd checked the meter First AND still issued the ticket, he'd committed a Criminal Offence.
The Biggest Challenge for any parent, I suppose, is to,
Help their child to avoid being a Victim of someone's
- Mistake
- Incompetence
- Neglect
- Laziness
- Greed
- ..........
Fate
Always Be Alert
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
P.S. I made a complaint to the Mayor. She replied she did not know why it had happened. But had cancelled the ticket and apologised for any upset that might have caused
NEVER Take Things for Granted
E.g. Never assume that bad things Only happen to others.
E.g. Never assume that everyone is a Kind person.
My rented car was Unlawfully Ticked.
When parking the car outside a supermarket,
I checked the parking meter, confirming there was still 90 minutes.
So, I did not put any more coins in.
When coming out from the store,
I was shocked to see a parking ticket - when there was still 67 minutes left!
Shocked I was ticketed for parking a car at a meter,
".....showing the word 'Expired'" (According to the ticket)
Speechless.
I asked my 10-year-old Elder Boy.
I : Why I was ticked?
B : May be the officer is new. He issues more ticket, so that he gets more money!
I : No. He will NOT get more pay for issuing more tickets.
B : May be he only saw you parking at the meter but not knowing there was still money in the meter.
I : Still, he's to check the meter First.
B : That's True.
I : This's Serious. If he did not check the meter First before issuing, he's Neglect of his Duty.
B : ........
I : But if he'd checked the meter First AND still issued the ticket, he'd committed a Criminal Offence.
The Biggest Challenge for any parent, I suppose, is to,
Help their child to avoid being a Victim of someone's
- Mistake
- Incompetence
- Neglect
- Laziness
- Greed
- ..........
Fate
Always Be Alert
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
P.S. I made a complaint to the Mayor. She replied she did not know why it had happened. But had cancelled the ticket and apologised for any upset that might have caused
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Holiday
Tomorrow comes the end of our 6-day holiday in Cairns.
My 10-year-old Elder Boy stated this morning,
"It would be nice if we stay in Cairns for a month."
Sound familiar?
Earlier this year, we had a 4-day holiday in Gold Coast.
My Elder Boy stated at the time,
"We should stay here for at least a week."
Children love holidays.
Especially mine.
Because they have to do MINIMUM work while on holiday.
No Comprehension. No Writing. No Maths etc.
But I always remind them,
"Life is Work, Play, Work, Play....."
"Can NEVER be ONLY Play"
"And Always Work First"
And I also remind them lately,
"You two have More Holidays than most children,
"Because Mum & I are always prepared to take you two for holidays"
But, I've made a deal with my Elder Boy.
He's to have a Longer Holiday.
And an Overseas Holiday.
If he does well in the coming International Test.
I would like to know where he's at.
Children love Negotiation.
And they are good at it!
Fate
Holidays - keep us Going!
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
My 10-year-old Elder Boy stated this morning,
"It would be nice if we stay in Cairns for a month."
Sound familiar?
Earlier this year, we had a 4-day holiday in Gold Coast.
My Elder Boy stated at the time,
"We should stay here for at least a week."
Children love holidays.
Especially mine.
Because they have to do MINIMUM work while on holiday.
No Comprehension. No Writing. No Maths etc.
But I always remind them,
"Life is Work, Play, Work, Play....."
"Can NEVER be ONLY Play"
"And Always Work First"
And I also remind them lately,
"You two have More Holidays than most children,
"Because Mum & I are always prepared to take you two for holidays"
But, I've made a deal with my Elder Boy.
He's to have a Longer Holiday.
And an Overseas Holiday.
If he does well in the coming International Test.
I would like to know where he's at.
Children love Negotiation.
And they are good at it!
Fate
Holidays - keep us Going!
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, August 28, 2009
Extend
10 days ago, I had NOT decided to take a holiday at Cairns.
Only Thinking.
And Discussing with my wife if we should.
But, my boys had ALREADY assumed we WOULD be there.
So they'd started counting down.
They started saying, "9 nights to go!"
When we finally decided to take a 5-day Cairns holiday a few days ago.
My boys started allocating the hotel's complimentary internet useage.
"Dad -1st day....Mum..."
Children are so Happy.
So Easy to.
And Extend the Happiness too!
So, they're happy BEFORE the holiday.
More Happy DURING the holiday.
Still Happy AFTER the holiday.
Seem like they're having THREE holidays at any one holiday!
Being Happy is So Simple.
Have to learn from them.
Fate
Everyday is a Happy Day - if you want it to be!
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Only Thinking.
And Discussing with my wife if we should.
But, my boys had ALREADY assumed we WOULD be there.
So they'd started counting down.
They started saying, "9 nights to go!"
When we finally decided to take a 5-day Cairns holiday a few days ago.
My boys started allocating the hotel's complimentary internet useage.
"Dad -1st day....Mum..."
Children are so Happy.
So Easy to.
And Extend the Happiness too!
So, they're happy BEFORE the holiday.
More Happy DURING the holiday.
Still Happy AFTER the holiday.
Seem like they're having THREE holidays at any one holiday!
Being Happy is So Simple.
Have to learn from them.
Fate
Everyday is a Happy Day - if you want it to be!
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Curiosity
My Elder Boy was in trouble in May 08 when he just turned 9.
His Year 4 teacher told me he'd made a bad decision during the ICT lesson.
After giving me the details, she'd assured me my Elder Boy'd learnt a lesson.
I'd asked my Elder Boy for his Version.
His Version collaborated with his teacher's.
He was at the time thinking,
"What would happen if I typed in the 'F' word as the password?"
He'd learnt it the hard way.
The Whole Computer System at the school was down!
I advised his teacher my Elder Boy would NOT come to the class the following day.
As I'd take him to a special place to give him a Reminder.
I also advised the Primary School Head when pumping into her on our way out.
She stated,
"It may NOT be necessary for him NOT to come to school tomorrow.
It was only a Minor Issue."
I insisted,
"Minor Issue if NOT being dealt with promptly would soon become a Major Issue."
"He'll NOT be coming to school tomorrow for the Fun Friday. Thanks."
On returning home, I had a long chat with my Elder Boy.
I : Curiosity is Good in some sense. That's why we'd invented airplane, car etc.
B : Yes, I was only Curious what would happen if the "F" word was typed in as password.
I : But remember, Curiosity if NOT handled Properly could Destroy a person.
B: ........
I : Tomorrow I'm to take you to a place, showing you the Consequences of NOT handling Curiosity Properly.
So, we're in a local court the following day.
Inside a court room for 15 minutes.
I later asked my boys what was the case about.
B : Drug?
I : Yes. What had the man standing there done?
B : Sold Drug?
I : Yes. he was Curious about Drug when he's Young. But did NOT handle the Curiosity
well, ending up first taking it then selling it and now become a Career Criminal.
B :.........
I : I'd like to remind you two things, my boy.
First, think if it is the Right Thing to do.
Second, even if it's Right, think if it's the Right Time to do it there and then.
If in doubt, what you should do?
B : Ask?
I : Ask whom?
B : Ask you or Mum?
I : Yes, my son. Or some responsible adult, like a teacher.
B : Could I have my 20-minute weekly computer game allowance later today, please?
Children............Learn Quick!
Fate
Every Incident is a Learning Opportunity
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
His Year 4 teacher told me he'd made a bad decision during the ICT lesson.
After giving me the details, she'd assured me my Elder Boy'd learnt a lesson.
I'd asked my Elder Boy for his Version.
His Version collaborated with his teacher's.
He was at the time thinking,
"What would happen if I typed in the 'F' word as the password?"
He'd learnt it the hard way.
The Whole Computer System at the school was down!
I advised his teacher my Elder Boy would NOT come to the class the following day.
As I'd take him to a special place to give him a Reminder.
I also advised the Primary School Head when pumping into her on our way out.
She stated,
"It may NOT be necessary for him NOT to come to school tomorrow.
It was only a Minor Issue."
I insisted,
"Minor Issue if NOT being dealt with promptly would soon become a Major Issue."
"He'll NOT be coming to school tomorrow for the Fun Friday. Thanks."
On returning home, I had a long chat with my Elder Boy.
I : Curiosity is Good in some sense. That's why we'd invented airplane, car etc.
B : Yes, I was only Curious what would happen if the "F" word was typed in as password.
I : But remember, Curiosity if NOT handled Properly could Destroy a person.
B: ........
I : Tomorrow I'm to take you to a place, showing you the Consequences of NOT handling Curiosity Properly.
So, we're in a local court the following day.
Inside a court room for 15 minutes.
I later asked my boys what was the case about.
B : Drug?
I : Yes. What had the man standing there done?
B : Sold Drug?
I : Yes. he was Curious about Drug when he's Young. But did NOT handle the Curiosity
well, ending up first taking it then selling it and now become a Career Criminal.
B :.........
I : I'd like to remind you two things, my boy.
First, think if it is the Right Thing to do.
Second, even if it's Right, think if it's the Right Time to do it there and then.
If in doubt, what you should do?
B : Ask?
I : Ask whom?
B : Ask you or Mum?
I : Yes, my son. Or some responsible adult, like a teacher.
B : Could I have my 20-minute weekly computer game allowance later today, please?
Children............Learn Quick!
Fate
Every Incident is a Learning Opportunity
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Hug
My 6-year-old boy loves to give Mum a "Morning Hug" every morning.
Every morning the 1st thing.
And this is Infectious.
My 10-year-old boy started to do the same.
But with a new twist.
He wants More - not just in the morning or before going to bed.
I've asked my Elder Boy why he loves to Hug me (& Mum)
He replied, "Because it's (our body) soft , giving me a Good Feeling"
Yes. I must admit it does give a Good Feeling.
Feeling the Warmth from your Child.
Feeling the Happiness of your Child.
Feeling..........just being so CLOSE to your Child.
CLOSE to their Body, their Mind, their Soul......
Yes, the Invisible Bonding between Parent and Children has now become so Visible.
Visible due to Physical.
Have we as Parents Hug our children often enough?
Love can be expressed other than Words.
Can be shown by Action.
And my wife suggested to me yesterday,
"May be we should Hug each other More Often?"
Did I not say this is Infectious?!
Fate
Embracing a Good Feeling
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Every morning the 1st thing.
And this is Infectious.
My 10-year-old boy started to do the same.
But with a new twist.
He wants More - not just in the morning or before going to bed.
I've asked my Elder Boy why he loves to Hug me (& Mum)
He replied, "Because it's (our body) soft , giving me a Good Feeling"
Yes. I must admit it does give a Good Feeling.
Feeling the Warmth from your Child.
Feeling the Happiness of your Child.
Feeling..........just being so CLOSE to your Child.
CLOSE to their Body, their Mind, their Soul......
Yes, the Invisible Bonding between Parent and Children has now become so Visible.
Visible due to Physical.
Have we as Parents Hug our children often enough?
Love can be expressed other than Words.
Can be shown by Action.
And my wife suggested to me yesterday,
"May be we should Hug each other More Often?"
Did I not say this is Infectious?!
Fate
Embracing a Good Feeling
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, August 14, 2009
Shock
I was shocked when watching a local 7 News on Monday evening.
Two persons stating something along the line that,
"These days, we have some teens do not know how to make a tea, a lunch etc.
So I feel that these skills should be taught at school like Maths or Science..."
Wait a minute.
How difficult is it to make a tea or a sandwich?
(We're NOT taking about Master Tea Maker or MasterChef)
More Importantly,
How much time does it take to make one?
Most importantly,
What are the Parents doing at home?
Is this NOT something that parents doing WITH their children at home?
(And have some fun together?)
There is NOT even enough time to teach the BASIC Literacy, Maths etc. skill at school.
Putting this something NOT so Urgent,
NOT so Relevant,
And something parent can do at HOME into school syllabus....
Absolutely Unimaginable!
I'm glad that my boys set the table ready everytime we have meals.
Will draw the curtains when the night comes etc. etc.
This is NOT Skill.
This is Respect .
Respect for Oneself - Never sit there and waiting to be served.
This is Duty.
Duty to be a Good Family Member - Get Involved in family matters.
This is.....
As I often say,
There is NO Teenage Problem,
There is ONLY Parent Problem.
What have the parents been doing for the 12-3 years before their children turn Wild?
Fate
Ask Yourself before Blaming Everyone Else
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Two persons stating something along the line that,
"These days, we have some teens do not know how to make a tea, a lunch etc.
So I feel that these skills should be taught at school like Maths or Science..."
Wait a minute.
How difficult is it to make a tea or a sandwich?
(We're NOT taking about Master Tea Maker or MasterChef)
More Importantly,
How much time does it take to make one?
Most importantly,
What are the Parents doing at home?
Is this NOT something that parents doing WITH their children at home?
(And have some fun together?)
There is NOT even enough time to teach the BASIC Literacy, Maths etc. skill at school.
Putting this something NOT so Urgent,
NOT so Relevant,
And something parent can do at HOME into school syllabus....
Absolutely Unimaginable!
I'm glad that my boys set the table ready everytime we have meals.
Will draw the curtains when the night comes etc. etc.
This is NOT Skill.
This is Respect .
Respect for Oneself - Never sit there and waiting to be served.
This is Duty.
Duty to be a Good Family Member - Get Involved in family matters.
This is.....
As I often say,
There is NO Teenage Problem,
There is ONLY Parent Problem.
What have the parents been doing for the 12-3 years before their children turn Wild?
Fate
Ask Yourself before Blaming Everyone Else
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Monday, August 10, 2009
Beaten
My Younger Boy loves Playing.
Playing Lego, Playing Piano & Playing Chess.
So, I had a Chess game with him a few days ago.
Just like many other games I'd played with him before.
When being asked if I should give him some advantages like with one less Castle,
He replied "NO, just play normal this time."
Alright, so I did.
And so I'd.................................LOST!!!
I was beaten!
A 46-year-old man was beaten by his 6-year-old son!!
When I lost a castle, he was happy & jumping.
Then, I lost a Knight, a Bishop and then.....a Queen.
I saw him singing, saw him jumping.
And when he won, he was everywhere, jumping around, singing aloud!
A bit like New Year Celebration!
After him calming down, I then asked him why I'd lost the game.
He stated in a calm voice,
"Because you're Over-confident?"
Yes, I was.
I though it was a piece of cake to beat him.
Then I made not one but 4 major Mistakes.
"So what have you learnt from my defeat, my son?"
"Never Too Confident!"
Fate
Be Humble or to Tumble
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
P.S. Just read the news over the weekend, looking at the Academic Assessment results of ALL schools in Queensland State. A Top school introduces Chess to All students (i.e. from Year 1), claiming that it helps children's development greatly like planning ahead, forming strategies etc.
Playing Lego, Playing Piano & Playing Chess.
So, I had a Chess game with him a few days ago.
Just like many other games I'd played with him before.
When being asked if I should give him some advantages like with one less Castle,
He replied "NO, just play normal this time."
Alright, so I did.
And so I'd.................................LOST!!!
I was beaten!
A 46-year-old man was beaten by his 6-year-old son!!
When I lost a castle, he was happy & jumping.
Then, I lost a Knight, a Bishop and then.....a Queen.
I saw him singing, saw him jumping.
And when he won, he was everywhere, jumping around, singing aloud!
A bit like New Year Celebration!
After him calming down, I then asked him why I'd lost the game.
He stated in a calm voice,
"Because you're Over-confident?"
Yes, I was.
I though it was a piece of cake to beat him.
Then I made not one but 4 major Mistakes.
"So what have you learnt from my defeat, my son?"
"Never Too Confident!"
Fate
Be Humble or to Tumble
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
P.S. Just read the news over the weekend, looking at the Academic Assessment results of ALL schools in Queensland State. A Top school introduces Chess to All students (i.e. from Year 1), claiming that it helps children's development greatly like planning ahead, forming strategies etc.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Breakfast Time
Breakfast Time could sometimes become Trouble Times.
When my boys start arguing with, if not shouting at, each other.
They had one again a few days ago.
So, I started to shift their attention by asking each one of them,
"Could you each please tell me two things nice about your brother"
My Younger Boy,
"He helps me and he gives me clear instructions."
(He always think his Elder Brother is his "Boss"!)
My Elder Boy,
"He helps me and do what I tell him."
So, I then reminded them,
"See, you two enjoy each other's company and.......the Help!"
"Remember, my boys,
No matter how much you two argue today,
No matter how much you fight each other today,
I'd like you two to remember this,
You two are Brothers,
You two are born to Help each other,
To Love each other, alright?"
Their eyes were Blinking, their mouth were Smiling.
My Younger Boy then asked me,
"Could you please tell me two things, you as a Husband, nice about your Wife?"
This 6-year-old boy is indeed a Quick Learner!
And a Joker!
Fate
Children Learn Most from their Parents
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
When my boys start arguing with, if not shouting at, each other.
They had one again a few days ago.
So, I started to shift their attention by asking each one of them,
"Could you each please tell me two things nice about your brother"
My Younger Boy,
"He helps me and he gives me clear instructions."
(He always think his Elder Brother is his "Boss"!)
My Elder Boy,
"He helps me and do what I tell him."
So, I then reminded them,
"See, you two enjoy each other's company and.......the Help!"
"Remember, my boys,
No matter how much you two argue today,
No matter how much you fight each other today,
I'd like you two to remember this,
You two are Brothers,
You two are born to Help each other,
To Love each other, alright?"
Their eyes were Blinking, their mouth were Smiling.
My Younger Boy then asked me,
"Could you please tell me two things, you as a Husband, nice about your Wife?"
This 6-year-old boy is indeed a Quick Learner!
And a Joker!
Fate
Children Learn Most from their Parents
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Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Rules
The Teens were sent overseas to live with a New family.
To live in a small town named as the "Best Place to Raise Children" in USA.
Their New parents are Devoted Christians.
Who also have four children of their own!!
And the first thing the New Parents did was,
To brief their New Children about the House Rules.
The Teens were NOT impressed as both thought the Rules were too Strict.
I asked my Elder Boy during the commerical break of the "World's Strictest Parents",
"Do you thing the Rules are Strict?"
My Elder Boy replied without thinking,
"No. How could they be Strict?
They are Reasonable.
No Drinking, No Smoking, No Rude Manners,
No going out at night on their own........"
And, there was another Rule.
Anyone Breaking the Rule would Face Consequences.
The Boy was made to clean the toilet after being Rude.
The Girl was made to being with the New Mum 24/7 after found Smoking.
The Programme has shown us that,
Even the Behaving Badly Teens could feel the Passion of their New Parents.
Could feel the New Parents are Genuine in helping them to become a Better Person.
Even the Mostly Clam me would shed tears when being touched.
When seeing the girl crying while reading her Mum's passionate letter,
With words like,
"I see myself in you........
seeing you're making the same mistakes I'd made when I was young........
many nights I walked into your room, seeing you sleep..........
and heartbreaking to see you destroying yourself......."
Even those having serious doubts about the Teens.
Could see the change in the Teens after that short 7 days.
This programme has once again remained us,
"A Better Environment can Bring Out Our Better Self."
These New Parents has also confirmed what I always be live in,
"Love has to come hand in hand with Discipline"
I asked my Elder Boy at the end of the programme,
"Why these Teens are Behaving Badly?"
My Elder Boy replied without any doubts,
"They don't come from a Happy Family"
(The boy was raised by Grandparents as his Mum was a drug addict & imprisoned)
My Elder Boy then asked me a question,
"Could I watch it again next week?"
"Yes, of course" I replied.
(In my heart- so that you know it's NEVER easy to be a Responsible Parent, ha!)
Fate
The Best Gift to Our Children is Our Time
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
To live in a small town named as the "Best Place to Raise Children" in USA.
Their New parents are Devoted Christians.
Who also have four children of their own!!
And the first thing the New Parents did was,
To brief their New Children about the House Rules.
The Teens were NOT impressed as both thought the Rules were too Strict.
I asked my Elder Boy during the commerical break of the "World's Strictest Parents",
"Do you thing the Rules are Strict?"
My Elder Boy replied without thinking,
"No. How could they be Strict?
They are Reasonable.
No Drinking, No Smoking, No Rude Manners,
No going out at night on their own........"
And, there was another Rule.
Anyone Breaking the Rule would Face Consequences.
The Boy was made to clean the toilet after being Rude.
The Girl was made to being with the New Mum 24/7 after found Smoking.
The Programme has shown us that,
Even the Behaving Badly Teens could feel the Passion of their New Parents.
Could feel the New Parents are Genuine in helping them to become a Better Person.
Even the Mostly Clam me would shed tears when being touched.
When seeing the girl crying while reading her Mum's passionate letter,
With words like,
"I see myself in you........
seeing you're making the same mistakes I'd made when I was young........
many nights I walked into your room, seeing you sleep..........
and heartbreaking to see you destroying yourself......."
Even those having serious doubts about the Teens.
Could see the change in the Teens after that short 7 days.
This programme has once again remained us,
"A Better Environment can Bring Out Our Better Self."
These New Parents has also confirmed what I always be live in,
"Love has to come hand in hand with Discipline"
I asked my Elder Boy at the end of the programme,
"Why these Teens are Behaving Badly?"
My Elder Boy replied without any doubts,
"They don't come from a Happy Family"
(The boy was raised by Grandparents as his Mum was a drug addict & imprisoned)
My Elder Boy then asked me a question,
"Could I watch it again next week?"
"Yes, of course" I replied.
(In my heart- so that you know it's NEVER easy to be a Responsible Parent, ha!)
Fate
The Best Gift to Our Children is Our Time
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, July 24, 2009
The World's Strictest Parents
Masterchef - the most watched TV programme in Australia finally came to an end.
A Great programme, giving us a lot of fun.
And a Great Opportunity, giving us to remind our boys of the Importance of the 6P,
Planning (Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail)
The Foundation - Without which nothing can be built upon.
Passion (One will Never do well if they do NOT like what they're doing)
The Joy - NOT Enjoy doing it, will NOT Make it.
Preparation (A Good Beginning more likely brings a Good Ending)
The Start - Headstart leads to Great End.
Presentation (Good Presentation makes a Good Impression)
The Climax - Make or Break Time.
Perfect Timing (Task has to be Completed on Time, Everytime)
The Control - Losing Control, Losing Chance.
Persistence (Insist on continue Improving Oneself)
The Difference - Working Wholeheartedly, Success come Eventually
Now, comes another Great programme.
On Channel 7, 1930-2030 hrs Every Wednesday,
"The World's Strictest Parents"
See if you can view it on the website, www.yahoo7.com.au
Each episode is to shows two Behaving Badly teenagers being put in a foreign country.
Living with "new" parents for a week.
And see if they change their Behaviours after the New experience.
We saw the first episode 2 days ago with our boys.
Utilising the opportunity to have a better understanding of how my boys see things.
We discussed with them during the commercial breaks and the next day breakfast.
This is a programme NOT to be missed.
Especially those having a teenage child/ren or a child soon to become one.
Fate
Better Understanding, Better Relationship, Better Life
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
A Great programme, giving us a lot of fun.
And a Great Opportunity, giving us to remind our boys of the Importance of the 6P,
Planning (Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail)
The Foundation - Without which nothing can be built upon.
Passion (One will Never do well if they do NOT like what they're doing)
The Joy - NOT Enjoy doing it, will NOT Make it.
Preparation (A Good Beginning more likely brings a Good Ending)
The Start - Headstart leads to Great End.
Presentation (Good Presentation makes a Good Impression)
The Climax - Make or Break Time.
Perfect Timing (Task has to be Completed on Time, Everytime)
The Control - Losing Control, Losing Chance.
Persistence (Insist on continue Improving Oneself)
The Difference - Working Wholeheartedly, Success come Eventually
Now, comes another Great programme.
On Channel 7, 1930-2030 hrs Every Wednesday,
"The World's Strictest Parents"
See if you can view it on the website, www.yahoo7.com.au
Each episode is to shows two Behaving Badly teenagers being put in a foreign country.
Living with "new" parents for a week.
And see if they change their Behaviours after the New experience.
We saw the first episode 2 days ago with our boys.
Utilising the opportunity to have a better understanding of how my boys see things.
We discussed with them during the commercial breaks and the next day breakfast.
This is a programme NOT to be missed.
Especially those having a teenage child/ren or a child soon to become one.
Fate
Better Understanding, Better Relationship, Better Life
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Question
My 6-year-old Younger Boy asked me an interesting question this morning.
"Dad, do you prefer a Slow Death or a Sudden Death?"
I : What about you, which one do you prefer?
B : I prefer a Sudden Death.
I : Why?
B : Because I do not have to see all these blood, intestine......coming out.
I : And?
B : And I could just fall ...like a tree trunk.
I : And?
B : And then fly up to the sky...
I : And then?
B : Just stay up in the sky.
I : Why did you ask me this question?
B : Because XXX (my Elder Son's name) told me he preferred Sudden Death."
I : Alright, I talk to you two about this again during breakfast, ok?
(I was brushing my teeth when being asked & the tooth paste started dripping as we talked)
While having breakfast, I brought up the subject again.
I : Why did you prefer a Sudden Death?
Elder Boy : Because there will be NO pain.
Younger Boy : I prefer living.
I : But everyone dies. Remember the saying & lyrics in the "Lion King"? Circle of Life?
Both Boys : Yes.
I : Life is a Circle. Just like sunrise, sunset, high tide, low tide..... and Life never ends actually. I could be a Dog Next Life.
Elder Boy : Yes, I might be a Dog Last Life.
Younger Boy : I may be a Pig Next Life.
Everyone started to laugh.
Fate
Life goes on and on ......
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I later learnt from my wife my boys learn the term "Sudden Death" from the TV programme, Masterchef, during which a contestant will be immediately eliminated if they fail to name an ingredient in a presented dish. One of us always watching TV with our children and it pays off.
"Dad, do you prefer a Slow Death or a Sudden Death?"
I : What about you, which one do you prefer?
B : I prefer a Sudden Death.
I : Why?
B : Because I do not have to see all these blood, intestine......coming out.
I : And?
B : And I could just fall ...like a tree trunk.
I : And?
B : And then fly up to the sky...
I : And then?
B : Just stay up in the sky.
I : Why did you ask me this question?
B : Because XXX (my Elder Son's name) told me he preferred Sudden Death."
I : Alright, I talk to you two about this again during breakfast, ok?
(I was brushing my teeth when being asked & the tooth paste started dripping as we talked)
While having breakfast, I brought up the subject again.
I : Why did you prefer a Sudden Death?
Elder Boy : Because there will be NO pain.
Younger Boy : I prefer living.
I : But everyone dies. Remember the saying & lyrics in the "Lion King"? Circle of Life?
Both Boys : Yes.
I : Life is a Circle. Just like sunrise, sunset, high tide, low tide..... and Life never ends actually. I could be a Dog Next Life.
Elder Boy : Yes, I might be a Dog Last Life.
Younger Boy : I may be a Pig Next Life.
Everyone started to laugh.
Fate
Life goes on and on ......
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
I later learnt from my wife my boys learn the term "Sudden Death" from the TV programme, Masterchef, during which a contestant will be immediately eliminated if they fail to name an ingredient in a presented dish. One of us always watching TV with our children and it pays off.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Humour
While driving my Elder Boy home after his piano lesson yesterday, I asked him a question.
See if he really understood why I'd NOT share my lottery money with everyone UPFRONT.
Also, would like to remind him,
"Money" is NOT an Evil in itself.
It is the People using it that could be Evil themselves.
His answer surprised me.
Our Conversation went as follows :-
I : What'd be the First thing you do if you'd won the lotto?
B : I'd buy a house.
I : Why?
(I was expecting an answer like, "So that we could live in a more comfortable house" etc.)
B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know where I live.
It's Safer to change my address.
I : And then?
B : Buy a car.
I : Why?
B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know what I drive.
It's Safer to change my car too.
He was laughing when telling me all these.
I just could NOT stop laughing on hearing his answers either.
It's obvious my Elder Boy has really taken in what I've been reminding him,
"There are More Unhappy People than Happy People in this world.
More Selfish than Caring,
More Failing than Succeeding,
More Poor than Rich,
More.................. and
above all,
More Not so Good than Good."
I'm pleased to see my Elder Boy,
Not only having a Sense of Alertness,
But also a Sense of Humour.
Better Sense of Humour = Better Chance of a Happy Life = Better Chance of Success?
Fate
Humour Makes Things Better
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
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See if he really understood why I'd NOT share my lottery money with everyone UPFRONT.
Also, would like to remind him,
"Money" is NOT an Evil in itself.
It is the People using it that could be Evil themselves.
His answer surprised me.
Our Conversation went as follows :-
I : What'd be the First thing you do if you'd won the lotto?
B : I'd buy a house.
I : Why?
(I was expecting an answer like, "So that we could live in a more comfortable house" etc.)
B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know where I live.
It's Safer to change my address.
I : And then?
B : Buy a car.
I : Why?
B : Because people at the newsagent selling the lotto would know what I drive.
It's Safer to change my car too.
He was laughing when telling me all these.
I just could NOT stop laughing on hearing his answers either.
It's obvious my Elder Boy has really taken in what I've been reminding him,
"There are More Unhappy People than Happy People in this world.
More Selfish than Caring,
More Failing than Succeeding,
More Poor than Rich,
More.................. and
above all,
More Not so Good than Good."
I'm pleased to see my Elder Boy,
Not only having a Sense of Alertness,
But also a Sense of Humour.
Better Sense of Humour = Better Chance of a Happy Life = Better Chance of Success?
Fate
Humour Makes Things Better
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
P.S. Fiona (babebabe1120) thanks for your Feedback. We're doing fine, thank you. Trust that you & your family are also having some good family time together
Saturday, July 11, 2009
Talk
My Elder Boy was recently given a letter "J" by his teacher.
He was required to give a short talk the following day.
My Elder Boy decided to make up a story about "Jaguar".
His story went as follows :-
"Once upon a time, there was a Jaguar and he ran very fast.
But one day while he was running, he found a Cheetah ran faster next to him.
So, the Jaguar went to visit a Wizard, asking the Wizard to change him to a Cheetah.
His wish was granted.
The following day, he ran past all the other Jaguars.
But 20 seconds later, every Jaguar ran past him!
The Jaguar realised Cheetah could only run faster than him for 20 seconds!
"This story has reminded us,
Everyone has something Good inside them.
We do not need to change ourselves."
I told my Elder Boy it was a Great story.
And when he returned home the next day, I asked him how he went.
I was surprised to hear he had changed the topic at the last minute.
Instead of giving a short talk about "Jaguar", he had changed to talk about a classmate.
Whose name began with a "J".
He had talked about how Kind this "J" sometimes could be, What this "J" is good at.
Even though this "J" had, on a few occasions, been harsh Verbally to my Elder Boy.
I asked my Elder Boy why he did it.
He replied,
"I think it's better to say some good things about "J", so that it would be better for our relationship."
I smiled.
Because I was Happy.
Because I knew my Elder Boy has grown.
Fate
EQ is More Important than IQ
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
He was required to give a short talk the following day.
My Elder Boy decided to make up a story about "Jaguar".
His story went as follows :-
"Once upon a time, there was a Jaguar and he ran very fast.
But one day while he was running, he found a Cheetah ran faster next to him.
So, the Jaguar went to visit a Wizard, asking the Wizard to change him to a Cheetah.
His wish was granted.
The following day, he ran past all the other Jaguars.
But 20 seconds later, every Jaguar ran past him!
The Jaguar realised Cheetah could only run faster than him for 20 seconds!
"This story has reminded us,
Everyone has something Good inside them.
We do not need to change ourselves."
I told my Elder Boy it was a Great story.
And when he returned home the next day, I asked him how he went.
I was surprised to hear he had changed the topic at the last minute.
Instead of giving a short talk about "Jaguar", he had changed to talk about a classmate.
Whose name began with a "J".
He had talked about how Kind this "J" sometimes could be, What this "J" is good at.
Even though this "J" had, on a few occasions, been harsh Verbally to my Elder Boy.
I asked my Elder Boy why he did it.
He replied,
"I think it's better to say some good things about "J", so that it would be better for our relationship."
I smiled.
Because I was Happy.
Because I knew my Elder Boy has grown.
Fate
EQ is More Important than IQ
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Good Intention, Bad Outcome
I'd asked my Elder Boy why I would share my lottery money with three of them ONLY.
He was NOT sure.
So, I told him a real life story.
In US, there was a man won a lottery.
He then shared the money with everyone around him.
His wife, his children, his siblings, his relatives, his friends etc. etc.
But, everyone around him was NOT happy.
Because they're comparing.
They're asking why others got more than them.
Asking the Winner,
"How could she get more than I when I'd known you Longer than her?"
"How could he get more than I when I'd helped you More than him?"
In the end, the Winner was also NOT happy.
So, rather than just handing out money to others when they do NOT need it, we better wait.
We wait until they desperate need the money for urgent matters.
We then come in and give them the financial help when it's most needed.
Then, they will be very happy.
I've also used the story to remind my Elder Boy of the need to,
"Think like Others - Putting Yourself in others' Shoes"
Understand Oneself, Understand Others - making everyone Happy Together.
Fate
Everyone Deserves a Good Outcome
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
He was NOT sure.
So, I told him a real life story.
In US, there was a man won a lottery.
He then shared the money with everyone around him.
His wife, his children, his siblings, his relatives, his friends etc. etc.
But, everyone around him was NOT happy.
Because they're comparing.
They're asking why others got more than them.
Asking the Winner,
"How could she get more than I when I'd known you Longer than her?"
"How could he get more than I when I'd helped you More than him?"
In the end, the Winner was also NOT happy.
So, rather than just handing out money to others when they do NOT need it, we better wait.
We wait until they desperate need the money for urgent matters.
We then come in and give them the financial help when it's most needed.
Then, they will be very happy.
I've also used the story to remind my Elder Boy of the need to,
"Think like Others - Putting Yourself in others' Shoes"
Understand Oneself, Understand Others - making everyone Happy Together.
Fate
Everyone Deserves a Good Outcome
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, July 3, 2009
The Biggest Prize
Australia had recently offered the Biggest Prize for its Lotto,
A$90 Million.
I asked my Elder Boy how he would use the Prize Money if he was the Winner.
His eyes were then blinking - so he's doing his Maths!
He then divided the Money as follows:-
A$ 2Million for Charity.
A$ 5 Million EACH for Mum & Dad.
A$ 6 Million EACH for his Younger Brother and 3-year-old Cousin in HK.
And put the rest in a bank.
A very good plan.
But of course I'd to ask,
"Why would your Younger Brother and your Cousin get more than your Mum & Dad?"
A very logical answer.
"Because they're Younger, have more years to live, so they need more money."
He then asked me the same question.
I told him I would divide the money into 5 equal parts.
20% for Charity (10% has to be for the children ones)
20% for Each of us - the Four of us.
He, of course, had another question for me,
"Is there a A$1 Billion Prize?"
"Yes," I replied, "And I've already won it."
"Really?" my boy wondered.
"Yes, because I've you two - Happy & Healthy boys!"
Fate
Our Children Bring us the Biggest Prize
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
A$90 Million.
I asked my Elder Boy how he would use the Prize Money if he was the Winner.
His eyes were then blinking - so he's doing his Maths!
He then divided the Money as follows:-
A$ 2Million for Charity.
A$ 5 Million EACH for Mum & Dad.
A$ 6 Million EACH for his Younger Brother and 3-year-old Cousin in HK.
And put the rest in a bank.
A very good plan.
But of course I'd to ask,
"Why would your Younger Brother and your Cousin get more than your Mum & Dad?"
A very logical answer.
"Because they're Younger, have more years to live, so they need more money."
He then asked me the same question.
I told him I would divide the money into 5 equal parts.
20% for Charity (10% has to be for the children ones)
20% for Each of us - the Four of us.
He, of course, had another question for me,
"Is there a A$1 Billion Prize?"
"Yes," I replied, "And I've already won it."
"Really?" my boy wondered.
"Yes, because I've you two - Happy & Healthy boys!"
Fate
Our Children Bring us the Biggest Prize
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
The Greatest
One of the Greatest Singers has just passed away.
Not without Controversy as usual.
I asked my Elder Boy why he thought the Great Singer died.
He replied, "heart attack?"
I : Assuming it's the heart attack, what had caused it?
H: He took drugs?
I : Assuming he'd taken drugs, why?
H: He was NOT happy?
I : Assuming he's NOT happy, why?
H : His parents did NOT spend enough time with him?
So, my Elder Boy has understood the Root Cause of Every Problem,
We as parents have NOT spent Enough Time AND Happy Time with our children.
So, some Unhappy children grow up as Unhappy adults.
And these Unhappy adults spend years after years Struggling.
Socially. Mentally. Emotionally........
Even after they've become Rich and Famous.
Look at the Drinking Problem of the US Pop Princess, Britney Spear.
Look at the Drug Problem of the UK Pop Prince, Robbie Williams.
Their Emptiness is Bigger than the Black Hole.
Because they've NOT got the Greatest thing, also the Most Valuable/Important thing in Life,
Love.
That's why I make myself available everytime my boys want to show me their drawing.
Everytime they want to show their lego creation.
Everytime they want to share with me their self-made joke!
Fate
No Love. No Life. No Future
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Not without Controversy as usual.
I asked my Elder Boy why he thought the Great Singer died.
He replied, "heart attack?"
I : Assuming it's the heart attack, what had caused it?
H: He took drugs?
I : Assuming he'd taken drugs, why?
H: He was NOT happy?
I : Assuming he's NOT happy, why?
H : His parents did NOT spend enough time with him?
So, my Elder Boy has understood the Root Cause of Every Problem,
We as parents have NOT spent Enough Time AND Happy Time with our children.
So, some Unhappy children grow up as Unhappy adults.
And these Unhappy adults spend years after years Struggling.
Socially. Mentally. Emotionally........
Even after they've become Rich and Famous.
Look at the Drinking Problem of the US Pop Princess, Britney Spear.
Look at the Drug Problem of the UK Pop Prince, Robbie Williams.
Their Emptiness is Bigger than the Black Hole.
Because they've NOT got the Greatest thing, also the Most Valuable/Important thing in Life,
Love.
That's why I make myself available everytime my boys want to show me their drawing.
Everytime they want to show their lego creation.
Everytime they want to share with me their self-made joke!
Fate
No Love. No Life. No Future
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, June 26, 2009
Future
For the last few days, my boys were really excited by the Masterchef TV programme.
The candidates were competing in.....................
Hong Kong!
So, my boys were excited again to see all these Lion Dancing, the Noisy (& dirty) Market, the Roasted Duck etc.
The Familiar Places, the Familiar Food and the Familiar Culture.
So, my boys then suggested to us we should have more Chinese Food.
So, we would be making Roasted Duck, Dumplings, Chicken with Chinese Mushroom........
And we'd our own "Yam Chai" at home yesterday with all these "Siu Ma", Spring Roll" etc.
Yes, from the Frozen Pre-packed Dim Sum!
Better than None!
I took the Opportunity to remind our boys of the four things that Chinese are good at,
- Chinese Cooking
- Chinese Feng Shui
- Chinese Martial Art
- Chinese Medicine
If they're good at anyone of the above, they would be in a Much Better Position to........
make some new friends!
And possibly to make a Good Living.
But, most importantly, I would like to remind them,
If one does NOT know where they're from,
They would NOT know where they're going.
Fate
Our Past Shapes Our Future
ww.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
The candidates were competing in.....................
Hong Kong!
So, my boys were excited again to see all these Lion Dancing, the Noisy (& dirty) Market, the Roasted Duck etc.
The Familiar Places, the Familiar Food and the Familiar Culture.
So, my boys then suggested to us we should have more Chinese Food.
So, we would be making Roasted Duck, Dumplings, Chicken with Chinese Mushroom........
And we'd our own "Yam Chai" at home yesterday with all these "Siu Ma", Spring Roll" etc.
Yes, from the Frozen Pre-packed Dim Sum!
Better than None!
I took the Opportunity to remind our boys of the four things that Chinese are good at,
- Chinese Cooking
- Chinese Feng Shui
- Chinese Martial Art
- Chinese Medicine
If they're good at anyone of the above, they would be in a Much Better Position to........
make some new friends!
And possibly to make a Good Living.
But, most importantly, I would like to remind them,
If one does NOT know where they're from,
They would NOT know where they're going.
Fate
Our Past Shapes Our Future
ww.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Peace
Went to Aussie World (www.aussieworld.com.au) on Wednesday.
Amused to see so.......................few people.
Might be because our boys left the school a week earlier.
So, while plenty of others still learning at schools, our boys playing in fun park!!
We made a Few History thereat.
There was NO queue in any game we played.
We're the only four sitting inside the Stimulator (I was the ONLY one Screaming!)
We're the only ones playing the Dodgems.
My boys were the only two driving the Bizzy Bigges!
For a few moments, we thought it was our Private Fun Park!
We're at HK Disneyland, Gold Coast Dreamworld recently.
A Minimum Wait of 30-45 minutes was required for each game.
So, it was a Luxury in the Aussie World.
So Much Time in hand.
So Less people.
So Relaxing.
I never thought that I could find Some Peace in a Fun Park.
And I could even find Some Time to read a book while our boys were playing.
An Environment has, once again, proved it has Tremendous Effects on people.
And this visit has, once again, reminded me I was Right to change school for our boys.
Fate
Better Environment, Better Human
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Amused to see so.......................few people.
Might be because our boys left the school a week earlier.
So, while plenty of others still learning at schools, our boys playing in fun park!!
We made a Few History thereat.
There was NO queue in any game we played.
We're the only four sitting inside the Stimulator (I was the ONLY one Screaming!)
We're the only ones playing the Dodgems.
My boys were the only two driving the Bizzy Bigges!
For a few moments, we thought it was our Private Fun Park!
We're at HK Disneyland, Gold Coast Dreamworld recently.
A Minimum Wait of 30-45 minutes was required for each game.
So, it was a Luxury in the Aussie World.
So Much Time in hand.
So Less people.
So Relaxing.
I never thought that I could find Some Peace in a Fun Park.
And I could even find Some Time to read a book while our boys were playing.
An Environment has, once again, proved it has Tremendous Effects on people.
And this visit has, once again, reminded me I was Right to change school for our boys.
Fate
Better Environment, Better Human
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Learning
Has been Exceptionally Busy lately.
Because our April's Plan of "Travel Around the World" has to be dropped.
The Swine Flu Outbreak came.
Came so Fast, hitting every country/territory we intend to visit so Hard.
And then came the Phase 6 - Pandemic.
We've to change our plan - stay in Australia for the next 16 weeks!
Even though Victoria State is actually More Dangerous.
It has More Confirmed cases than Mexcio & USA!!
( 1 case in 9,100 people > 1 in 22,000 > 1 in 27,000!)
Then, our boys attended the Last day of their current school two days ago.
And, we just instructed another agent to sell our home.
Everything just happened, happened so Fast and happened at the Same time.
Just like our children.
They grow so Fast.
And the Question I always have on the back of my mind,
"Could my academically quite sound boys know how to deal with Real Life Situation?"
About a week ago, we went to a local shopping centre for some grocery shopping.
When leaving the centre, there were two teenage girls sitting on a bench about 5 metres from us.
One of the girls, asking me politely from a distance,
"How you got some spare coins, please? We're trying to get a bus."
I told them the truth,
"Sorry, I've NO spare coins."
And her response?
She became nasty and then stated,
"You, AsXXXe!!"
When returning home, I asked my elder boy,
"Why do you think that girl had asked me for money?"
"Because she's no money?"
"Yes, why do you think she's no money?" I continued.
"Because she does NOT have a job?"
"Yes, why do you think she has no job?" I asked again.
"Because she did not do well at school?"
"Yes, my boy. That's what I've been telling you, try your best at school.
It's your responsibility to learn as much as you can at your age.
Or one day, you're to end up like them - NOT having the Skill to get a decent job.
Then, Begging or Threatening others for money.
Money that you should have worked hard for and in the Right Way."
"And what else have you learnt from the incident?"
I asked my elder boy the final question.
m..m.....
"My boy, there are many many people in this world appearing to be Nice to you.
Because some of them want Something from you.
And if they subsequently find out they could not get that Something from you,
they'll become Very Nasty - just like the girl we met earlier "
Fate
Every Incident is a Learning Opportunity
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Because our April's Plan of "Travel Around the World" has to be dropped.
The Swine Flu Outbreak came.
Came so Fast, hitting every country/territory we intend to visit so Hard.
And then came the Phase 6 - Pandemic.
We've to change our plan - stay in Australia for the next 16 weeks!
Even though Victoria State is actually More Dangerous.
It has More Confirmed cases than Mexcio & USA!!
( 1 case in 9,100 people > 1 in 22,000 > 1 in 27,000!)
Then, our boys attended the Last day of their current school two days ago.
And, we just instructed another agent to sell our home.
Everything just happened, happened so Fast and happened at the Same time.
Just like our children.
They grow so Fast.
And the Question I always have on the back of my mind,
"Could my academically quite sound boys know how to deal with Real Life Situation?"
About a week ago, we went to a local shopping centre for some grocery shopping.
When leaving the centre, there were two teenage girls sitting on a bench about 5 metres from us.
One of the girls, asking me politely from a distance,
"How you got some spare coins, please? We're trying to get a bus."
I told them the truth,
"Sorry, I've NO spare coins."
And her response?
She became nasty and then stated,
"You, AsXXXe!!"
When returning home, I asked my elder boy,
"Why do you think that girl had asked me for money?"
"Because she's no money?"
"Yes, why do you think she's no money?" I continued.
"Because she does NOT have a job?"
"Yes, why do you think she has no job?" I asked again.
"Because she did not do well at school?"
"Yes, my boy. That's what I've been telling you, try your best at school.
It's your responsibility to learn as much as you can at your age.
Or one day, you're to end up like them - NOT having the Skill to get a decent job.
Then, Begging or Threatening others for money.
Money that you should have worked hard for and in the Right Way."
"And what else have you learnt from the incident?"
I asked my elder boy the final question.
m..m.....
"My boy, there are many many people in this world appearing to be Nice to you.
Because some of them want Something from you.
And if they subsequently find out they could not get that Something from you,
they'll become Very Nasty - just like the girl we met earlier "
Fate
Every Incident is a Learning Opportunity
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Masterchef
A UK report has once found children will suffer adverse effects if them watching TV OVER a "certain period of time"
Have a Guess on that time?
2 hours!!!
I wish I had such a Luxury (2-hour FREE time) every day!
My boys, however, are really enjoying in watching a new TV show, Masterchef.
www.masterchef.com.au
A programme that aims to find the NEXT Great Chef from a pool of selected candidates.
They'll be tested on skills in cooking, innovation, time management, leadership etc.
And they'll be eliminated one by one until the Master has been found!
My boys are now even more interested in cooking.
And our Elder Boy has often asked me to give him "4 Ingredients".
So that he can quickly come up with an Idea for a New Dish!
And he has even tried to cook us one/two small dishes!
And we also ask our boys who they think will be eliminated and, more importantly, why.
This show has allowed us to teach our boys something important, which they cannot learn in the classroom.
So, who say TV is Bad?
Who say Money is Bad?
It's NOT the thing Itself.
But how the thing is Being Used.
Fate
Everything Could be Good
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Have a Guess on that time?
2 hours!!!
I wish I had such a Luxury (2-hour FREE time) every day!
My boys, however, are really enjoying in watching a new TV show, Masterchef.
www.masterchef.com.au
A programme that aims to find the NEXT Great Chef from a pool of selected candidates.
They'll be tested on skills in cooking, innovation, time management, leadership etc.
And they'll be eliminated one by one until the Master has been found!
My boys are now even more interested in cooking.
And our Elder Boy has often asked me to give him "4 Ingredients".
So that he can quickly come up with an Idea for a New Dish!
And he has even tried to cook us one/two small dishes!
And we also ask our boys who they think will be eliminated and, more importantly, why.
This show has allowed us to teach our boys something important, which they cannot learn in the classroom.
So, who say TV is Bad?
Who say Money is Bad?
It's NOT the thing Itself.
But how the thing is Being Used.
Fate
Everything Could be Good
www.fatesecrets.blogspot.com
Friday, May 29, 2009
Simplicity
I once saw a TV programme reporting that,
"A 3-year-old child laughs about 300 hundred times a day;
A 30-year-old person laughs about 30 times only a day."
I could NOT stop laughing after learning this.
So True.
Are we NOT "A Day Older, A Day Sadder?"
The Older we're, the More Miserable we're!
And our two boys?
About 18 months ago, when my younger boy was then 5, we took him out for lunch.
When being asked what he would like to have, he gave a surprise answer.
"Gluten, please."
"Why?" I asked.
He then pointed at the Menu Board and stated,
"Because it's FREE!"
(The Board had a line stating, "All Food are Gluten Free")
About 5 years ago, when my elder boy was then also 5, I asked him a question,
"What Car would you drive when you're an adult?"
His Reply was, "I'm NOT sure"
"Why?" I then asked him.
Expecting him to say something like,
"It's difficult to choose amongst different cars like Honda, Benz etc."
But his answers was,
"I do NOT know NOW because I do NOT know how long my feet Will Be"
I then started to understand why Most Children are Mostly Happy.
Because they've a Simple Mind.
Fate
Simplicity make us Happy
"A 3-year-old child laughs about 300 hundred times a day;
A 30-year-old person laughs about 30 times only a day."
I could NOT stop laughing after learning this.
So True.
Are we NOT "A Day Older, A Day Sadder?"
The Older we're, the More Miserable we're!
And our two boys?
About 18 months ago, when my younger boy was then 5, we took him out for lunch.
When being asked what he would like to have, he gave a surprise answer.
"Gluten, please."
"Why?" I asked.
He then pointed at the Menu Board and stated,
"Because it's FREE!"
(The Board had a line stating, "All Food are Gluten Free")
About 5 years ago, when my elder boy was then also 5, I asked him a question,
"What Car would you drive when you're an adult?"
His Reply was, "I'm NOT sure"
"Why?" I then asked him.
Expecting him to say something like,
"It's difficult to choose amongst different cars like Honda, Benz etc."
But his answers was,
"I do NOT know NOW because I do NOT know how long my feet Will Be"
I then started to understand why Most Children are Mostly Happy.
Because they've a Simple Mind.
Fate
Simplicity make us Happy
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
The Beginning
Until last June, I thought I'd a Duty to my boys simply because,
"I'd brought them to this world."
I later realised I was Wrong.
Terribly Wrong.
The Simple fact is,
"My boys brought me to this world to be their Guiding Angel"
I finally realised why so many events had happened to me in my first 36 years.
"To prepare me to be a Better Father"
The Two Questions then I started asking myself were,
"If I Die tomorrow, have I already well prepared my boys for the coming Challenges in their Life?"
"If I Die tomorrow, have I made a small contribution in this world, making it a Better Place?"
So, I started my 1st Blog, "The Secrets of Making Millions" last September.
Because Financial Stress is the Greatest Stress AND the Cause of ALL other Stresses.
Because a Stress Free Parent is a Happy Parent, which in turn, will make Happy Children.
Now, I'm to take a step further.
To start this Blog, sharing with other parents what my boys have made me to Understand.
Fate
Children are Our Teachers
"I'd brought them to this world."
I later realised I was Wrong.
Terribly Wrong.
The Simple fact is,
"My boys brought me to this world to be their Guiding Angel"
I finally realised why so many events had happened to me in my first 36 years.
"To prepare me to be a Better Father"
The Two Questions then I started asking myself were,
"If I Die tomorrow, have I already well prepared my boys for the coming Challenges in their Life?"
"If I Die tomorrow, have I made a small contribution in this world, making it a Better Place?"
So, I started my 1st Blog, "The Secrets of Making Millions" last September.
Because Financial Stress is the Greatest Stress AND the Cause of ALL other Stresses.
Because a Stress Free Parent is a Happy Parent, which in turn, will make Happy Children.
Now, I'm to take a step further.
To start this Blog, sharing with other parents what my boys have made me to Understand.
Fate
Children are Our Teachers
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